logo


Romantic Forums! Get the answers you seek quickly and easily! If you can't find what you need
here amongst our tens of thousands of tips and questions, be sure to Post in our Romantic Forum!
We've got over 9,800 members ready to give you a hand!
A Love Quote
Let your love be like the misty rains, coming softly, but flooding the river. --Malagasy Proverb



Is my girlfriend cheating on me?



Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
We met about 3 months ago, and started dating the first week, we met. Things were amazing. She is reallly PRETTYYY (on a scale of 1-10...she's a 10), And she is a wonderful girl, and very talented.

Now, over 3 months have gone by, and ever since school ended we haven't been able to see eachother often. As a matter of fact we haven't seen eachother in a month. We've spoke on the phone, but sometimes when i ask her what she did over the week, or what she is going to do next week, sometimes, she won't tell me. She doesnt really give me a detailed answer. All she told me was "I was out". And also I tell her things like "I would never cheat on you ever, and I love you, and would never even think about doing that sort of thing."
And then her response back to me, is usually one word or two words...usually she'll say somehting like, "same here".

She never told me in a sentence, that she would never cheat on me or anything like that. I can't stand that.

A little while ago, I found out that her longest relationship was about 4 months. I had no clue who this guy was, that she had this long relationship with. Recently I found out that this guy, is her neighbor. They went out, but he cheated on her, so she in return found out, and cheated on him. Then they broke up.

But what I don't understand is, she tells me that he is a real "jerk", right. Yet now, she spends time with him (once again), and they are somehow "friends". I dont understand how they could be, after what he did to her. It's like she still has feelings for him.

She told me that they broke up, because he wasn't as into it as she was.
Implying that she liked him more, than he liked her. I don't know.
She sees him more than she sees me. They are neighbors! And also this "ex-boyfreind" asked her to go to a concert with him, and she actually wanted to go!!!!?!?!?

-ok, and I call her often, and she is hardly home. She also just started going to this gym recently by her house, and a guy there gave her his phone number. This guy knew that she had a boyfrined (me), but he still gave it to her. She took it, but didnt tell me what she did with it.

I just don't know, since she can't really see me as often as she used to, I just don't know if she taken interest in other guys. And all the things she has said and done, make me think that something's up.

-She also has shouted/whistled at other "hot guys" (jokingly?) right in front of me, and afterwards she tells me that she's sorry, she didn't mean it.
I just don't know if she has done anything. Considering that I haven't seen her in a long time. She really hardly tells me about her life, and she has lied to me in the past, sometimes.

I've been trying to look for signs of her cheating or at least maybe she is keeping something from me. I just don't know.

-She was on the phone with me today, and she looked in the mirror, and told me "I look terrible/ugly". I said "of course you are not, I dont even know why you go to that gym, you dont need to" And she tells me "yea i do need to" In the meantime, she is really skinny, and one of the prettiest girlz i have ever seen in this country. I just dont know.

Something is just not right, whether it's the way she feels about me, or if it's someone else, or if something worse might've happend already.
I really love her, but now it's just so hard. I always think about her.
She is the one who hangs up first every time i call her. She is the kind of girl who is very open, and will just go up to guys and start flirting with the, (right in front of me).

What do i do? What signs are there to look for maybe? How can I tell if there is something I dont know about? I've been up for days and nights thinking about all this, loosing sleep, and I need to tell someone about all this.
Please help :-(




RomanceClass.com Advice
OK first off, you shouldn't have to state to each other constantly that you will not cheat! You guys are boyfriend-girlfriend. That MEANS you should not cheat. You shouldn't have to SAY it. Are you going to make her say things like "I will not murder you" and "I will not kick you" and so on so that she proves she won't do it? A relationship is all about trust and honesty and loyalty. So you need to trust her and be honest with her, and she needs to trust you and be honest to you. You shouldn't have to demand and receive constant reassurance that you will honor that commitment.

It's very normal for peoples feelings to change over time - the fight she had with her ex was long ago and the things they had in common before they still had in common now. But if her ex is starting to want to DATE her again, I would talk with her about it. She should always be putting you and the relationship first - if she is encouraging this ex to feel more strongly about her, that would be bad both for her and her commitment to you, and for her ex. It's very unfair to lead guys on. On the other hand, she deserves to have male friends. So it depends on what this ex is like, if he is being a good friend to her or if he is trying to lure her back into his life.

As far as the gym goes, I think it's great that she wants to be toned. Sure she may be SKINNY but being SKINNY and being in shape are two completely different things. It is very, very important for a woman to be in good shape. A woman who is thin but without tone can get broken bones and such out of the 'frailty'. And if she wants to have kids at some point, she'll want a healthy NOT a skinny body.

Keeping up a long distance relationship is always difficult. I have lots of tips on long distance relationships here -

Long Distance Relationship Tips

It takes a lot of work on both sides. Look through the tips on my site and try some suggestions there to keep the interest alive until you guys can get back together again more closely.

-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com




Visitor Submitted Responses
Our RomanceClass visitors have chimed in with thoughts on this question and answer. Click on a link below to read what their solutions are!

Don't let her beauty fool you
I love her
Talk with her
Call Her Up
You Deserve Better
User Submitted Response from a 16-20 year old Male
User Submitted Response from a unknown year old Female
User Submitted Response from a 13-15 year old Male
User Submitted Response from a 13-15 year old Male
User Submitted Response from a 21-30 year old Male
User Submitted Response from a 13-15 year old Male
User Submitted Response from a unknown year old Male
User Submitted Response from a 13-15 year old Male

Add RomanceClass  to Twitter Add RomanceClass  to Facebook Add RomanceClass  to MySpace Add RomanceClass  to Del.icio.us Digg RomanceClass+ Add RomanceClass  to Yahoo My Web Add RomanceClass  to Google Bookmarks Add RomanceClass  to Stumbleupon Add RomanceClass  to Reddit
 


Speak Your Mind - Share your Thoughts on this Question!

All Advice in the category - Flirting and Friendship

Browse our Answer Database
- Browse Answers by Question Category
- Browse Answers by Age Group
- Browse Answers by Date of Response



Please read through the advice on this site before you Submit your Own Question! We have thousands of pages of valuable advice that can immediately help you with your situation.
Advertisement


Sparkly Irridescent Glitz Gel

Going to a party or special event? What to feel special no matter what you're doing? Roll on some glitz! Perfect for adding a special bit of sparkle to your day or evening.

Buy Glitz Gel at EclecticLady.com




Bookmark this site so you can reference it any time you need romantic / relationship info in the future!

Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Twitter Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Facebook Add Romance+Class+Website+ to MySpace Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Del.icio.us Digg Romance+Class+Website+ Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Yahoo My Web Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Google Bookmarks Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Stumbleupon Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Reddit


 

Follow Me on Pinterest


Romantic Tshirts, Bags, Mugs and More!

Love is Patient
Love is Patient ...
Deeply Loved
Deeply Loved ...
Random Kindness
Random Kindness ...

These are just a small selection - Visit the RomanceClass Shop!

Join This Newsletter!


 
RomanceClass on Facebook




Join This Newsletter!

Past Issues





| About RomanceClass | Advertising | Privacy Policy | Submit a Suggestion |
All content copyright 2013 Minerva WebWorks LLC. All rights reserved.

this site is for amusement only - professional advice is not being rendered

Irish Wedding