Questioning what she may be feeling?

Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
So my girlfriend and i broke up a month ago. I broke up with ehr because i felt she had issue with her ex b/f. I knew that she would never cheat on me , but she would talk about him alot in a negative way. Anyway we began to try and work things out and i come to find out that she hung out her with her ex a few times. She later called me told me that she was compltetly done with him , that he treated her terribly and that she was ready to finally move on from him. She told me that she wanted to give us another shot. So i agreed and for the next 3 days she did nothing to try and repair what she had done. She did nothing to earn my trust back. So we spoke about it , and she said that she felt that she didnt deserve me. She felt that i would never be able to get over what she had done and that i would hold it against her for the rest of our relationship. She said that she was so confused and that she didnt even know who she was anymore. She felt that her going back to her ex boyfriend was so uncharacteristic of herself and she didnt even know why she did it. So in the end we decided to stop talking and cut all communication. I did everything right in this relationship and i treated her so well , i am in love with her still and i just want to know what you may think she may be going through? To be fair we never really took anytime apart to let things settle. We spent the last 20 minuntes of our conversation going back to the beginning of what was great about our relationship and we both cried so much. She said that she knew what she had with me and no one has ever treated her so well , but she really needed to lose me in order for us to ever be together again. Like I said we decided to cut all communication for good so i may never hear from her again. I know that things are over between us , but i think i just want to know if she'll ever realize that what we had together wasn't an everyday thing. Is hindsight really 20/20? I just wish i had a better idea of how she was feeling. If you have any idea please give me your opinion

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As I mentioned the last time you wrote, you need to have a time of separation before trying to resume this relationship.

You may be surprised and find that she contacts you within the next months and says she now understands what happened. I'd recommend, again, that you not contact her for at least a month.

There is definitely a trust issue here and I recommend you read this:
http://www.coping.org/growth/trust.htm

Good luck! George

-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com

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