logo


Romantic Forums! Get the answers you seek quickly and easily! If you can't find what you need
here amongst our tens of thousands of tips and questions, be sure to Post in our Romantic Forum!
We've got over 9,800 members ready to give you a hand!
A Love Quote
You don't love a woman because she is beautiful, but she is beautiful because you love her.



I'm Jealous of my Boyfriend's Female Friends



Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
My boyfriend and I have been dating for four years. For the first two years he didn't talk to any of his female friends. We broke up and he decided to get involved with them, however we ended up back together, and now I'm having to deal with his female friends wanting to take him out. Its like they don't even acknowledge the fact that he has a girlfriend.

I told him how I felt and he told me that he wasn't going to stop seeing his female friends. And if it came down to choosing between me and his female friends it would be them. He told them that if they needed anything it didn't matter how I felt about it he would still do it. They know how I feel about certain things, yet they do it anyway and they tell my boyfriend they aren't trying to come between our relationship, but I feel like they are.

I feel that if they were true friends they wouldn't put him in these situations knowing how I feel about it Right? (Ex. One of his female friends asked him to take her to an abortion clinic to get an abortion, she didn't even consider how I felt, didn't ask how I would feel about it or anything. He took her regardless of how I felt.)

After going through this for so long, I broke up with him. He wants us to get back together, but now he is telling me that I am making him choose between me and his friends. And that I am the wrong one. Am I? Am I putting him in the situation to choose between me and his friends? Am I being to stubborn and jealous? What should I do any advice will help...




RomanceClass.com Advice
It sounds like your jealousy has already seriously damaged your current relationship to the point you two have broken up. If your boyfriend came back to you and/or married you, it would only get worse, considering how things have gone.

Your boyfriend's friend needed an abortion - and you were upset at him for keeping her company? You would rather she went alone? I don't see how that is any cause for concern - it's hardly like they went out dancing all night! She was in a very traumatic emotional situation and wanted a good friend with her. He shouldn't have to ask for permission for this, and you shouldn't have tried to keep him from going.

All guys should have female friends, and all girls should have male friends. It's part of having a healthy, well-rounded view of the world. It doesn't sound like these female friends are taking him out dancing until 2am or such. If they do actually go do something like that without you, you need to ask why you weren't invited along. You should be part of that circle of friends too! But to insist he cut off all contact with his friends just because they have female bits and not male bits on their body makes little sense.

I have pages on working on jealousy here -

http://www.romanceclass.com/miscr/howto/jealousy/index.asp

it really sounds like you have to learn to trust him. If you can't trust your partner, nothing else is going to work.

-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com





Add RomanceClass  to Twitter Add RomanceClass  to Facebook Add RomanceClass  to MySpace Add RomanceClass  to Del.icio.us Digg RomanceClass+ Add RomanceClass  to Yahoo My Web Add RomanceClass  to Google Bookmarks Add RomanceClass  to Stumbleupon Add RomanceClass  to Reddit
 


Speak Your Mind - Share your Thoughts on this Question!

All Advice in the category - Jealousy Issues

Browse our Answer Database
- Browse Answers by Question Category
- Browse Answers by Age Group
- Browse Answers by Date of Response



Please read through the advice on this site before you Submit your Own Question! We have thousands of pages of valuable advice that can immediately help you with your situation.
Advertisement


Sparkly Irridescent Glitz Gel

Going to a party or special event? What to feel special no matter what you're doing? Roll on some glitz! Perfect for adding a special bit of sparkle to your day or evening.

Buy Glitz Gel at EclecticLady.com




Bookmark this site so you can reference it any time you need romantic / relationship info in the future!

Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Twitter Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Facebook Add Romance+Class+Website+ to MySpace Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Del.icio.us Digg Romance+Class+Website+ Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Yahoo My Web Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Google Bookmarks Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Stumbleupon Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Reddit


 

Follow Me on Pinterest


Romantic Tshirts, Bags, Mugs and More!

Love is Patient
Love is Patient ...
Deeply Loved
Deeply Loved ...
Random Kindness
Random Kindness ...

These are just a small selection - Visit the RomanceClass Shop!

Join This Newsletter!


 
RomanceClass on Facebook




Join This Newsletter!

Past Issues





| About RomanceClass | Advertising | Privacy Policy | Submit a Suggestion |
All content copyright 2013 Minerva WebWorks LLC. All rights reserved.

this site is for amusement only - professional advice is not being rendered

origami wedding favors