All I can say is that i did everything i could to be the best boyfriend i could ever manage to be

Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
This is the poem I found online and this is exactly how I feel for R*...

I had closed the door upon my heart

Not a single soul could come in

I had trusted and loved, gave my hopes and my dreams

But that could never happen again

I had locked the door and tossed the key

As hard and as far as i could

Love would never enter again

MY heart was closed for good

But then you came into my life

And made me change my mind

Just when i thought that precious key

Was impossible to find

That's when you held out your hand

And proved that i was wrong

Inside your palm was the key to my heart

You had it all along



This is the letter R* wrote to my cousin so that we can understand more why he broke up with me.

"All men are jerks until proven otherwise" Kind of a pessimistic view. As far as I'm aware I got her off that stupid book of hers. And I was never a jerk. I will concede, however, that the breakup was both sudden and a little unexplained. The biggest reason I felt I should break up with E* was not, in fact, the commitment issue, it's how juvenile she is, hypocritical even. Before our relationship she explained to me that she was frustrated because all guys are so immature. However, it was her immaturity that pressed me too far. She is overly moody, going from valley girl happy to emo sad in a matter of seconds with use of one wrong sentence, shes overly driven by a need for intimate relations (the one time i tried to say no, she wouldnt let me). She has this little girl dream that shes gonna meet her husband in high school. She used the word "love" in a very dramatic and commitment oriented way, a way which would have driven most guys off but i stayed. i thought i was ready for that kind of a relationship but im not, i acted like i was and forced myself to be, but it was better for my mental health to break up, and i am greatly apologetic for that one. hopefully, the break up's main point, her immaturity, would be altered by the break up itself, forcing her to maybe realize it and finally grow up a little. The frustration of constantly being labeled a jerk in any area that she didnt know about me, which we've talked about, grew increasingly frustrating. *sigh*look, there are lots of little, and a few big, reasons, alot of which cant, or at least not comfortably, be explained, that i broke up with E*. All I can say is that i did everything i could to be the best boyfriend i could ever manage to be, i always put her happiness in front of everything else. im sorry if i've confused her or made her sad, i loved her and still think fondly of her daily, but i feel that our relationship could not continue on the road it was on for both our sakes the breakup was an ugly, but necessary step to better ourselves.



R* and I went out for a month 1/2. That poem up there was the poem I was about to give him right after homecoming but he broke up with me before hand...I'm not sure what to do with this poem....it's sad. After my traumatic breakup with Carter who I went out for more than a year...I vowed not to love again because it hurts so much until R* came along 5 months later after my breakup with C*...I opened up my heart once again. R* is the guy who says the right words at the right time. And then...this breakup occurs. I lost a great guy just because of my stupidity and fear of getting hurt and drove him away! I hate myself for that... R* broke up with me over the phone by the way. We broke up almost 3 weeks ago...it hurts a lot. I want him back but I don't know how. He doesn’t go to the same school... Please help me. I know that he has to leave CO for college when he graduates but...I want to spend the rest of my senior year with him... he's worth it. He's best friends with M* (my good friend) and that's how i met R*...thru m*. I love him...

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You only dated R* for 1 1/2 months and that was 5 months after you broke up with C*.

There was not enough time for you and R* to really get to know each other and become accustomed to value each other's style. R* didn't give you enough of a chance before he broke up with you. But, you should consider that water under the bridge. From reading R*'s letter, he seems to have made up his mind about you and if you tried to get him back it wouldn't work.

You attract boys rather easily, so go back to the ocean and fish out a new one !
George

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One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com

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