Aruba's-mom, I also think you made some very good points.
I would add, that unless there are urgent reasons to marry soon, she and her fiance should consider taking it slow. If a couple has the kind of relationship that will build a good marriage, there is no need to rush, because neither of them is going to leave.
And if there is danger that one of them will walk out on the other one if they don't hurry up and marry, then a marriage certificate is no guarantee that they won't split soon anyhow.
I'm curious about the family's reaction that she is too young, when her same-age brother is getting married even sooner. Do they mean that, or is there a chance that they just think she's chosen the wrong kind of man but they don't want to say so straight out?
