Yes, interesting. Both about the prayers, and about the OCD.
I tend to want to analyze, also, and don't really feel "settled" until I can understand what happened. I would think that the other person must not understand my thinking, since I knew that I meant them no harm, and was being myself. And I wanted us to be okay. And I've always hated feeling "abandoned."
Being on this discussion board (and some others) have helped me to learn that the person may not ever really understand you (or you, them, for that matter). And it may be that all you can do is disagree and move on.
I'm not really talking about romance and relationships, but I would guess it applies there, as well.
Kind of like one person being used to closeness in a family and the other not - different "comfort zones." And so closeness might make one uncomfortable, and inspire events to restore distance (like arguments).
I may not be on target on helping here. But I felt the need to chime in.
