Luvanimalsdearly - I agree 100% with BLR here. I talk with thousands of young women via the RomanceClass site about dating issues. In almost every situation, the most solid relationships start not from a "bar dating" situation which involves waiting for calls - but instead starts from a friendship which grows into something more powerful.
So let's start with your male friends. Who are the male friends in your life, and what do you enjoy about each one?