"From there I suppose it gets into a "degrees of pain" issue. If Bob simply got an apartment in New York City - a location which is way too loud and busy and scary for me - it would bother me a lot to see him, but I would struggle through it."
That is exactly it. He has told me her would be struggling and unhappy if he had to come out here each year. He said he does not feel it would be worth it.
In any case, he liked the bamboo plant idea.
