I tend to resist the 'done thing' i guess. I follow my own drummer. Maybe that does make me a petulant teenager.
I am what i am. the situation is what it is. I don't have to like it. And it's better to rant on it here than whinge about it to my friend.
In any case, the point may be moot eventually. My friend never did get around to proposing to this girl...and things don't seem to be going well on that front. I want him to be happy, so i support him working things out with her. But I am now getting a sense he won't be marrying her - he is starting to think she has a control problem where he is concerned.