generally folks ask to make sure there are no duplicates and they are not asking the folks they are getting the gift for but someone else with reliable info ...that way things fit and there are no duplicates ...not like wedding showers where thats a near non reality.

so the eliment of surprise does still exist...with the exception of with the kids never being taught that you dont always get what you want ...now they know they will get what they want

if you take away a dream.. then you take that heart and soul from something or someone...nothing wrong with the dream or encouraging it. It becomes a choice of if someone wants to be a ho hum grinch or find the dream exciting.

and kids...dont know about others...but parents are always checked with so you know who is giving what so no duplicates or non appreciated errrrrrrrrm so called surprises...this is where delegating comes into play.

what i dont like is the surprise comes in the way of how can you disguise the gift so they dont figure it out before hand...cuz they know they are gonna get it...THATS the shame of it all...

Last edited by illusive Fantasy; 12/04/11 01:43 AM.