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Ok i babysit my mom's friends sister's daughter. And she also has a son who's my age. The first day i went to go babysit he was there so we were both by ourselves. When i sat on the sofa he started talking to me for a while then he sat next to me. When we were watching tv he started sliding his hand down to touch mine. Then he just started making out with me! And i didnt even know him like that. But today they invited me to the pool and every time i see him he acts like nothing happened. But when i go babysit he makes out with me again. should i keep making out with him, or stop????

If he's trying to act like nothing happened becuase he doesnt want people to know, don't make out with him anymore. He's just using you to get a little action beucase he knows you will. tell him he's being an ass. (btw, how old are you?)

something tells me your under 18 years old.I hate to be the one telling you this by zoo keepers right your being used for your body.with all the life threating std's out there you better be very careful about what you do.your too young to take chaces putting you life on the line.especially for someone who only lets on they knowyou when no ones aroung. dump him like yesterdays garbage fast.he the kind who would say if you got pregant it wasn't me,it'sot mine.think about it;talk to your mom or some other adult woman that you trust.your playing with your life and you only get one;so take care of it,let it grow old with time.go luck toyou young lady.

Thanks for posting! And for those looking at this can u post something too i need all the help i can get! Or u can send me a pm message.


Thanks again

Hi Baby & welcome to the forum.

Well, I'm English and from my knowledge of American TV, 'making out' can have a variety of meanings.

Do you mean he just holds hands, puts his arm around you or kisses you, or is it going further than that? Are you talking about having sex?

Sorry to be blunt, but you sound very young and not too sure that you even want this.

Is he forcing his attention on you?

Do you like him?
Do you want this?
Does he bother to check whether you want his attention?
Do you say that you do, or act as if you do?

I think that teenage boys, even if they really like you, might act as if there is nothing between you in front of parents ~ because they are shy or embarrassed or want to keep things private.

I'm just concerned that you might be allowing things that you don't want or allowing things for which you are too young.

There are boundaries, I feel, depending on your age & his; your feelings & his; what your parents think, etc.

Remember, that once sexual activity becomes involved there are matters such as disease, pregnancy, the law and emotional concerns to be taken into account.

Be very careful.

Don't do anything you don't want to.
Don't do anything illegal.

Take care & perhaps it would be a good idea to have a chat with your Mum ~ it sounds as if you feel uncomfortable about all this.

In my opinion, I think it might be best if you quit. Like others said, maybe it's just that he's emarassed or shy about the fact that he does that. And, 'making out' has lots of meanings.

It sounds like you are most likely under 18 also.

Baby, I hope you can find someone that you trust and respect to talk about this in person. It sounds like he is being way to agressive and physical with you.

P.S. if your mom's friend's sister has a son your age, why does she need you to babysit?

i wrong know but sounds like u like that boy since u let him do that i mean if u like it why get in the middle have fun it's the summer

Baby, I don't agree with Nemo/Kesha's advice at all. This is not something that you should be having to deal with. If in fact you do want this situation, please find someone you can talk with about it even if it is a school counselor/youth group leader/ parent/ aunt or uncle, anyone you trust.

i think this person may be setting you up to be with her son - because like i said earlier...if her son is your age, then why would she ask you to come babysit someone your age? Why would he not be able to babysit the younger sibling?

well if nemo was a girl i would definitely set him up with your yellow bird he is a cutee--coming from a parent too

The next time he goes to do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable, tell him NO. Leave the room, or leave the house. He can babysit. Tell your parents why you left. Don't ever do anything that you don't want to. It sounds like you are in a situation that you are not ready to handle, if at all possible don't go back to babysit at all. It's your body, DO NOT let him touch it without your permission.

Baby I PMed you with some advice

Sincerly
Tango Mango 23

It is possible that I'm doing the guy a disservice and he could just be young and stupid and embarrassed...

But he really sounds like an inconsiderate jerk. At best. I would recommend that you stop babysitting there, and definitely talk to a trusted adult, ideally your mother if she's fairly reasonable.

It's one thing to know, intellectually, that you have a right to say no to anything that makes you uncomfortable. But sometimes it isn't easy to know *how* to say no. That's where a little more specific advice from someone who knows you well could be helpful.

If, on the other hand, you think you do like him and want him to be your boyfriend, or at least someone you date, then you're going to have to talk to him about that. Maybe ask him why he doesn't even talk to you when other people are around.

But personally, I think he's bad news. And you deserve better. Stop going there.

(And what other people have mentioned, wondering why his mother is hiring you to babysit when he is available - That's a very good question.)

"(And what other people have mentioned, wondering why his mother is hiring you to babysit when he is available - That's a very good question.) "

Well since he's only with his mom on the weekends she doesn't want to leave him in charge because since she's going out to have fun it wouldnt be fair to make him babysit when its not his responsibility.

How are you feeling about all this, Baby?

Is it a case that he wants to be your boyfriend but is embarrassed about being affectionate in front of the adults, or is he taking advantage of you?

Im not even sure of anything right now but i hope i do soon.