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Is there any possible way to define love? I know that I'm not in love with my girlfriend, but today she was telling me how this boy in her school who is two years older then both of us asked her out on a date. Luckily she said no and it actually turned out to be a joke from her friend that got her hands on his IM password. But when she was telling me this I felt like I wanted to kill this guy, even though I've never met him. I would never act on that feeling but that is how I know that I really do have feelings for her.

I love to look over and see my hubby in the morning! I love the way he laughs and makes me laugh! I can't wait to spend time with him! I can't wait to hug and kiss him when he get's home from work! I worry about him when he is gone and miss him like crazy! I can tell him anything in the world and know he will not judge! And even though I have had 4 kids, I am not embarrassed of my body around him.. EVER! I love to watch him play with our kids! I trust him completely with EVERYTHING! I am proud to walk with him places and if I see someone "checking him out" I am proud that he is mine!! That is how I define love!

To me being in love is a very deep and personal emotion,a feeling like no other. Some people think it's about sex but it's far more complex than that.

Love is in the look you can give someone that you care very deeply about, a touch, a caress, a smile. Love can be overlooking those 'little things' and knowing that you'd go to any lengths to be with or help that person. Love is willing to stand by a person when they need you the most.

There are many types of love, the love that a mother has for her child, her partner, her parents, her pets.

When you're apart you think of them and can't wait to see them again.

Love is being there for them to share their happiness, their tears their highs and lows. It's looking to the future knowing that you'll be sharing it with that special someone.

Love should never be taken for granted.

Signs to Notice She's in Love With Me (from my soon-to be-girlfriend back then)/Seen It Happen Among Servicemembers of the Opposite Sex on a Warship:
-She stops by and follows me wherever I go, even at mealtime.
-Constantly calls my workcenter asking for me, which sends gossip signals to my co-workers.
-Our brief conversations last more than 30 min. and we smile and look at each others' eyes while talking.
-Leads me to a private room in her workcenter.
-Everytime someone pops in, there she is with me alone.
-She first turns to me for help before asking for others' help on certain issues.
-More inappropriate contact [first one I first noticed from her was gently grabbing my forearm with her hand (at the sametime caressing it with her thumb) and resting her head on my shoulder when she first congratulated me on something; then went on to other stuff such as squeezing/massaging/spanking and so forth)].
-Conversations become more intimate and personal.
-More compliments about physical features (for example, she quoted to me and squeezed my left bicep="You're a male. With lots of muscles.") How'd she notice? I'm not even that chiseled.
-She always ask me to go with her when we arrive at a liberty port.

-When I'm in her presence, she is more at ease and she gets that gleam in her eye and smile on her face (I react the same way when she is in my presence).
-Kisses me when we bid farewell.
-Compares me to some hero from some romance novels that she enjoys reading.
-Takes and interest in what I am doing whether it's reading or watching movies.

Love is caring more about somebody else's happiness than your own.

Being able to trust that person 100% with your heart in their hand helps, too.

It has absolutely nothing to do with physical attraction and/or affection.

love is * WHAT U WANT IT 2 BE *...

4 me its acceptance, comfort, spontaneous fun, unspoken trust,the tugging on your heartstrings .. it hurts so good when you in love, sharing & caring ...*better 2 hav loved than not 2 have loved at all*

Hi debslove
Yes, I'd go along with all that!

Welcome to the forum!

I do care about her happiness and well-being a lot. And,I always stopped by for a chat everyday to cheer her up or socialize. Even when she is stressed, she tells me and I make her feel better. And that was why I was always available to help her,if not, refer her to someone who can help. It was always a pleasure more than a task. Not once have I ignored, refused, or let her down in any way. I never expected anything in return other than friendship and respect. Being 1 rank senior to her, I was more of a mentor. But it became much more than I expected. Even when we were just friends, I just couldn't stop thinking about her no matter how much logic I put into my mind to detach myself from her. Even had problems sleeping w/o thinking or worrying about her. That all started out when she congratulated me on my advancement. We didn't knew each other much back then and our relationship wasn't even that close. One day she approached to congratulate me, I felt her hand on mine and her other hand caressing on my forearm. Her head was also resting on my shoulder. That really got my attention. I thought it was just another touchy-feely female acquaintance. You know,some are like that. But it was just her I barely knew back then and she isn't into giving any affections. Don't get me wrong, I was turned on by her touching and carressing but wondered why she did this to me and no one else. My mind was saying, "What the ....? That's supposed to be what couples do! ". Maybe she wanted a trusted study partner (maybe even more than that) since both of us were working on our surface warfare pins. After that I took an interest in her and she did the same. One day while walking out of the ship into the pier after being released early on a Friday, I asked her if she could go out with me on a weekend. It took a lot of guts. I was nervous too! Showing respect and somewhat ashamed, I couldn't look her in the eye. Even sort of mumbled too! And herself being a classy woman who is shy and not promiscuous I expected a no. But she agreed with a twinkle in her eye and a genuine smile on her face. My eyes widened and I smiled back as I asked her the time and place. And, being helpful and slowly gaining her trust (she found it hard to trust anyone in a relationship since she has been brokenhearted before), was what brought about our relationship. Wished I'd met her in my younger days. Even though we are in our early 30s, some have compared us to a teenage couple since we both look 10 yrs. younger.

Thats it in a nutshell and VERY well put. I feel the same way about my hubby. Awesome isn't it??