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HI im in desperate need of some help. My ex and i were goin out for a year and decided to take a break. I acted to desperate im afraid i pushed her away. All her friends tell me to move on she doesnt like me anymore but i refuse to believe it because we had both fallen head over heels in love for each other. The other day at church i kept lookin over my shoulder only to find her staring at me multiple times. I still love her and want to be together. I think she is trying to ignore me because she is afraid of falling for me again. I dont no what to do please help me

Have you spoken directly to her about this. That might be the best way to tell her how you feel and ask her how she feels.

I tried when we first broke up but i think i acted to desperate. Do you really think all feelings could be gone we were each others first true love.

Was it her idea to "take a break?"



It depends on what the feelings were. Love, lust, infatuation or a combination of all. Yes the feeling could be so deminished that you could call them gone. Since this was you first love I am guessing that you are in your teens. This is not what you want to hear, but it may be better to move on. It sounds like she has moved on and think about it, do you want her back if you don't really have what you had before.

Well she told me when we first broke up and i agreed with her that we were fighting way to much. She said we need to become better friends before we tried again. She made it very clear she wanted to try again. With that she gave me a big hug and left. Now I havent talked to her in about 3 weeks ive been talking to her friend. The problem with this is i used her to get to my ex before we started dating. After we were together i stopped talking to her. All this stuff is based on what she said. Could she be getting back at me

any help???

Call her and ask her if the two of you could get together for coffee or lunch and to talk. Pick a place that has a quiet atmosphere away from mutual friends. Suggest the place you have in mind and that you both meet there.

Nothing is going to take the place of a face to face discussion to really know how she feels. Remind her of her statement about being better friends and tell her that is what you want also. Catch up on what is happening with her and keep it on a non pressure level. The fact that you take the initiative says volumns about how you feel toward her. I'm sure that you will get the answers you need, one way or the other.

On another thread you say:


So how far do you think that parents were associated with your break-up?

And you started another thread:


I think it's best if you just keep this problem to one thread, so I'll close that one.
http://www.wineintro.com/forum/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=302736#Post302736

Zack, I agree with BLR & Jo, that you should talk to her ~ quietly & objectively, without pressure.

She is the only person who can tell you how she really feels ~ not her friends, or anyone else.

She may be unsure, but at least you will get closer to the truth.

Good luck!

well thanks guys lol i just got back from church and she was there very akward and now she is trying to make me jealous with some guy saying o i cant wait for him to get back so i could hear what should i make of this