RomanceClass.com Forums Romance Breaking Up HELP!!!

Hi

Either she wants you to show her that you are still interested ~ because she is too; or she wants to prove to you that she's not interested; or she wants you to show that you are still interested, so that she can then prove that she is not.

Who can say?
You can only ask her.

How old are you both, by the way?

I agree!

Were both 16 the thing is i think i pushed her away right after the breakup i just dont wanna ruin any other chance i might have but i really just wanna pull her aside and just put it all on the line.

And another thing is she is giving me mixed signals. She wont talk to me but she will stare at me for the longest time im not sure what she wants with that am i missing something or is it just all women are very confusing

Yes, all women are very confusing. Eventually you will learn the signs and signals and body language and what they indicate. One thing you could do is read a few good books on dating and the opposite sex. I will tell you, that you can never go wrong by just being yourself, being honest, being genuine, being kind, being gentle, being considerate, being patient and being faithful. But most of all, communicate. You can waste your time wondering what something means or you can just ask her.

Your right im just really nervous thats all

I no i can ask her but like i said i did waaaay to much asking right after the break up. I just dont want to jump in to early and her freak out and get scared and never talk to me again. I dont know if she is expecting me to speak first

Zack, look at it this way. If she was going to talk to you she would have already. If you don't talk to her, you will continue to worry and speculate. In the meanwhile you are suffering more than if you just get it together and Speak to her. It doesn't have to be an in depth interogation. Just ask her how she is doing. If the conversation goes well then tell her that you would like to do exactly what she said, "get to be better friends"

This next step is important... Ask her how she thinks you both should do that.

She is either going to tell you she doesn't know how or she is going to tell you it isn't a good idea or she is going to ask you what you think. Or she isn't going to answer you. I think it will be one of the first three. You know how to handle the second and third one.

If she says she doesn't know how, you could ask what she thinks about haveing lunch some day or studying together at the library.

These are not the usual dating situations, so if she has a problem with these then perhaps you should simply ask her if she would prefer not to be friends and have contact with you.

What do you have to loose at this point. Suffer not knowing or come to the point and get an answer.

Thanks jo I guess i will get it together and pull her aside on sunday. Just hope she gives me the time of day.

Good Luck, I'm rooting for you.