Jasper, you received some very good advice from Carl. I am not as "mature" as my buddy Carl, but I can tell you that after being married for nearly 39 years, it never gets easier. However, I believe my marriage has survived for two reasons; first and foremost there has ALWAYS been good communication; secondly, in the last 30 years we turned our lives over to the God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob. When we established a relationship with God, our marriage grew stronger and has survived thru many trials.
Go with Carl's suggestions. Talk, although some may say it is cheap, it is the cornerstone of every good relationship.
To one with faith,no explanation is needed.To one without faith no explanation is possible. Aquinas