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My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years now. Our relationship for the most part was great. I never doubted him once. I recently found out that he had cheated on me. Something I had suspected shortly before I found out. My natural reaction was "it's over it's done" and I left it at that. However, I never saw a man act this way before, he broke down into tears, saying "throughout this whole thing he realised what it meant to love someone, and how to love someone, and never wanted to put us through this again." I didn't buy it at first. I couldn't get past the lies and the betrayal. However, we're still together, nine months later, and he tries everyday to make sure that I know how important I am and how much our relationship means to him. He's even been hinting at the fact that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. My problem lies in the healing part of all of this, naturally I'm going to be insecure, I want to believe and trust him again, but I want to know, if from anyone elses expierence, if they found it worth it. I love him, genuinely, with everything I have, I just want to stop doubting him.

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You had a great relationship. You trusted him. You never doubted him once.

He spoiled that and it sounds as if he is genuinely sorry, but you have to face your feelings. If you don't, they will surface every time you have a disagreement, every time he is late home, every time a woman looks at him.

You love him and you sound as if you really can overcome this, but you can't just pretend that it never happened. It did and you will have to try to come to terms with that.

He has to earn your trust again and you have to give yourself time.


"The secret of success is constancy to purpose" - Benjamin Disraeli.

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