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Can someone define what an insecure girl is?
Like how does one act, especially towards guys she is interested in.
I've been trying to figure out a certain girl for a long time and I can't figure out if she's insecure or if she just doesn't like me. For example, we've spoken before (I thought we had a good conversation) and then when I try to talk to her again she doesn't answer. I know she's single, but I still can't figure her out...

So can someone define the aspects of an insecure girls life or possibly tell me what is up with this girl? Thanks in advance.

Insecure girls....i would think they would be watching their backs most of the time. plus, they act a little gittery around people they dont feel comfortable with. Thats what i think anyway.

Hi & welcome meteoroligistt

What makes you think that this girl could be insecure?
Why, do you think, would that make her speak to you one day, and not another?

From my own point of view ~ having once been a teenage girl ~ I can tell you that I would probably have been quite happy to talk to an apparently pleasant boy, who I didn't know ~ or didn't know well.

However, if I thought that he was interested in me, and I wasn't interested in him, then I may not have been keen to talk to him again, in case he thought that I was encouraging him.

It's different if a girl already knows the boy quite well, because it can then just be a friendship, but if it's someone new, it may be that a girl doesn't want to give a boy the wrong impression.

I don't quite understand where insecurity might come into it.

Hope this helps.

I was very insecure and shy, my bf (before we were dating and knew each other) would try to talk to me and because I didn't talk that much back, he knew I was shy.
He figured I was either very shy or not into him, so it could be either, but in my case I liked him but was shy and didn't think he'd like me.
How does she act around other people, in class or wherever? If she tends to be quiet, has a small circle of friends, she may be shy. If however she is very talkative with other people, has lots of friends, other guy friends and so on, it might be that she is not interested.
Perhaps just becoming close friends with her, letting her get to know you might help her if she is shy. Then once she opens up, you could ask her out?

Yes, I was going to say that she could be shy ~ in which case it's best, I think, to just continue to be be friendly, so that she can get to know you, and feel comfortable in your company.