Hey everyone,

so theres this girl i really like, i met her a little more than a year ago, but foolish me never asked her out. We text eachother ALOT, and i can tell many of her text are flirty and nice. When we are together, we always have the best adventures and generally make fun out of nothing. I finally planned on asking her out.. until she got a boyfriend one day. (it sucks being shy)
I thought it would end.. but it didn't. One night, I took her to my friends bday party and I was holding her hand all night, we danced, and she would lie on me or I would lie on her on the couch. That night I kissed her. The times we've hung out while she's been dating him have been passionate. shes cheating on him with me..... Im confident she still likes me, but she likes her bf too (i mean duh, she IS going out with him).. im soo confused, and I cant determine what to do

Hello Tyy

This isn't really a good situation for any of you.
All three of you are in a 'relationship' based on lack of honesty and trust.

Perhaps, if you had asked her out before, then this other boy would not have been in the picture ~ but he is, now, and this isn't fair on him.

There is a chance that he will find out what is going on, which won't be good, either.

Do you want to carry on like this?
I'm guessing that you would rather share her with him than give her up altogether?

Have you talked to her about it?
That could be the best thing ~ as long as you accept that the result may not be the one you are hoping for.

Good luck!

Wow it is surely complicated.
I had once engaged in the same situation and I am the girl. I was torn between two lovers with my ex and my current bf... when im with my bf i dated my ex for about a month and engaged to physical and emotional situation. To the extent i decide to broke with my current boyfriend but before deciding on that I assess myself my future what I really want too....Then One day I realize its purely lust and vengeance so I end up not contacting him even though he contacted me... And now Im still with my current bf and I am happy that I choose over him.......