I am 21 years old, in college, and still single despite my best efforts



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I am 21 years old, in college, and still single despite my best efforts. Females just don't seem to respond to my advances. As a result, I am self-conscious all the time. What is wrong with me? Or rather, how do I find out what is wrong with me? Most people my age have at least had one or two significant others and I have failed to even achieve a first date. Please help.




User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
Have confidence


I don't necessarily think you not having a girlfriend has anything at all to do with your appearance. Overweight people, overly thin people, short people and tall people are equally able to find a significant other. It seems like you may be overthinking your predicament. I'm sure you have a lot to offer someone else. You just have to believe it. There's someone out there who is waiting to meet someone like you. It's true. Find the courage to strike up a conversation with a girl who you find interesting, and continue to have conversations with girls until you find the one who you are looking for. Talking to girls in general will boost your confidence. Girls love guys with confidence, and you will find that out along the way. Believe in yourself, and good luck!

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