Dating for six months, my gf is confusedWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 13-20 year old Male I have known this girl for about a year. I have been dating her for about 6mo and I love her to death. Recently we had our first fight. I have been really open in the relationship. She has been distant or closed. Our fight was about that. I tell her all the time how much she means to me and she never says anything to me. So I finally get an answer out of her and it was an odd answer. She came from a home where her dad was a deadbeat but her mom was great. Her parents are divorced and she lives with her mother. Her mother adores me. The answer she gave me is I am everything she wants I am the kind of guy she would marry but she isn't sure how she feels. She knows she cares for me but she isn't sure if she wants to get serious with me. This is basically what I got from the jibberish she said. Her words were jumbled when she talked to me about it. It made sense to me when she said it now I am puzzled. The one thing she said that really bothers me is "I don't want to make a mistake and regret it a month from now. I decide one thing and then another sways my thoughts. Then I see you and it sways again." Any ideas on how this should sound? I really don't want to lose her as my gf because she is all I ever wanted. She is my best friend in the world so I will continue to be friends. I realize what is going to happen will and there is nothing I can do but if I can understand it maybe that will help me. Is there any advice or can you translate any of that for me? Thanx in advance for your help. User Submitted Advice from a 51-60 year old Male Chill tou need to chill lil man i am in a relasionship for 36 years now and still aint married her The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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