How do I carry a discreet inspiration?We often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female I have a good friend whom I really find cute but I guess the main issue is that she is also a girl and we are from the same church. I really like her but I just want her to be an inspiration and nothing more although Im a bi because my relationship with God is most important. However we are very good friends and talks and texts each other a lot. She always is very supportive of anything I do and laughs at my jokes. However sometimes I invite her to play sports or go out with our other friends but politely refuses. Sometimes she does comes to go out. The issue here is sometimes when we are out watching shows or hanging out in bars our elbows brushed but we both didnt budge. I felt that she even slid it slightly closer. Same when our knees touched under the table in a bar. She removed it after a while to smoothen her skirt but after a few minutes our knees touched again but no one moved. Basically I just want to understand what she might be feeling as well. She will remain just an inspiration to me but Im just also curious. At the end of the day, whatever happens Im happy that we become good friends. We were with friends so while this is happening we are both talking to friends. User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female I think it is most important to not let our feelings cloud our thinking. Sometimes when we have an interest in someone, we give color to the things that that someone does. Those elbow and knee touchings might also just be harmless given that you're both good and friends and females, at that (I have touchy friends, too). But if you want, you can venture by asking what she thinks about your sexuality, just like what the previous post said. However, it is also very important that you pray first for those 'feelings' and let God do His job. The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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