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We met online dating site two months ago, he is American, me British and live in Asia. Both of us in late 30's. We went on terrific dates and everything was great. He is in military and was always asking a lot of question and i was more than honest with him. I though he was as well. 4 weeks ago he was ons dating site again with his profile on the day he cancelled our date when I confronted him he said he was checking me if I was cheking on him and said he was hole day in hospital and that is the reason he could not call me to cancell the date , I was waiting for his phone call. He sait he do not want to loose me and will not do anything else like that. Ok fine, second chance. He told me loves me =, talked about marriage, having children, gave me his flat key ant then on our supposed weekend date said he will call me to tell me date he will arrive at mines ande he never called , he sent the email, which I saw accidently. Did not pick up the phone when I called and went into hiding which push me over the top, I sen him e mail asking what is going on (and wrote that still we did not talk about the sunday when he ducked so I could not see his laptop and yahoo massages) and does he really love me and asked about trust and honesty. Basically I confronted him. He did not answer of my questions except to ask for my address to send me my neclace and to give his address for his key. Oh yes when I pushed for an answer he said he does not want to travel 2 hours to see me and does not want me come either. What the hell happened from Friday when he said I love you to Sunday. Was I pushy, controlling or what am I missing here????Was it my fauld. If I did something differen would I be with him still. WHY???Oh he is divorced with cheating ex.




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There is nothing you did wrong. Something is wrong at his end.

Probably he has found someone else and is afraid to tell you. Or if he still wants to be with you maybe he had an affair. Get this conversation out in the open and find out what his problem is. The longer you wait the more you will suffer.

Good luck! George

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