I Have Feelings for my Ex

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Visitor's Question:
I was dating this guy and I totally fell for him, but he broke up with me. I was crushed, completely destroyed but he didn't seem to care. He started dating another girl just a few days later so I cut off all ties with him.

Now I'm dating this guy I've been friends with for a while but I don't know if I really like him or if I'm still in love with my ex. I think about my ex a lot, but this feeling I have for my boyfriend is very similar to the way I felt when I started dating my ex.

I don't even talk to my ex, but I think I'm still in love with him.

I don't know what to do.




Our Suggestion:
It's very common when you break up with someone to still have feelings for them, even if they were harmful to you. There are still lingering emotions that take a while to fade away.

Focus all your attention on your current guy. He deserves your full affection and interest. Over time the ex will fade away - give it that time. Yes, he was an important stage in your life, and you'll always have a sense that your time with him had meaning. But it is a past meaning.

It's like loving a puppy you had when you were six, but moving on and now adoring the horse you have when you're 20. Each love is a stepping stone towards what you will have in your present and future time period. You don't have to completely erase the old feelings - and at the same time you want to make sure your focus in current times is with your current path.

Good luck!

--Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com




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