I'm Jealous about the Ex

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I have recently fallen in love with a guy, we are absolutely head over heels for each other. He has an ex, who he has known for 7 years, three years of which they were together. It was quite a dysfunctional relationship, where they became very co-dependent.

Now that she knows he is serious about me, she has slowly started making moves on him. She hasn't exactly said she wants him back, but her behaviour suggests otherwise - she would definitely like the option to have him back.

My problem is I can't get her out of my head. I know how much he loves me, and trust him completely, but I can't help but think what with their history and everything, she has some hold over him. From what he has told me she is quite warped, and I should be wary of her!

How can I overcome this jealousy, it's doing my head in. I would like to say to him cease seeing her, but I know that is ridiculous and unfair to impose that on someone.




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Everybody has an ex in their life of some sort or another. You need to accept all of what your boyfriend is - including his past. All of those events have helped make him what he is today, which is someone that you love.

I have a lot of tips on dealing with jealousy here -

http://www.romanceclass.com/miscr/howto/jealousy/index.asp

you need to trust him that he will stay with you. You need to accept that the girlfriend is a part of his past. Soon enough she'll find a new guy of her own and be out of your life. Just focus on your relationship until then.

--Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com




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