When I was drunk I didn't trust her friend but ended up doing stuff

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Hello,

I'm in a long term relationship and we have only been together for 8 months and we have broke up because I was horrible to her and lost her trust.

I was intoxicated and jealous as well as paranoid about her because of how she was in previous relationships and believe she would do the same to me. When I was drunk I didn't trust her friend but ended up doing stuff which my g/f saw. I really regret doing what I did because I have never done it before and feel horrible about it.

Recently some girl decided to be friendly to me and eventully starting hitting on me. I was friends with this girl for a month and never let my g/f know about it because I just thought of it as a friendship and nothing else. Then this girl happens to hit on me and I told my g/f about it and she is mad at me because I never let her know about it.

I really want to work things out with her and it feels like the relationship is hanging on by a thread. She tells me she still loves me and I really want to change for her.

I just need help to figure things out and don't know what to do.




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I'm glad that you are interested in healing the relationship, and this is much better than simply trashing her and moving on. That's a great thing. Now, it's just a matter of figuring out how to heal the rift between you two.

You need to get a handle on your jealousy. We have a lot of tips that might help you.
http://www.romanceclass.com/miscr/advcat/8

Along with this, you can work on the relationship by having a lot more honesty and openness and willingness to share practically everything until she's comfortable again that you are not doing anything to harm the relationship. The fact that you are interested in healing the relationship will ensure that it will heal.

Good luck!

--Jenn



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