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I'm a 23yr old guy, she's 21. I have been with my girlfriend for 4 years and a half now. We were both deeply in love. She had a very obsessive jealousy issue and took two years to fix but we managed. We used to have sex 3 to 4 times a week, sometimes even twice a day...now it has gone down to once or twice a month maybe. Everytime she expressed her feelings she always was afraid that i was gonna leave her and how she wants to me my future wife etc. All of a sudden she says that she needs to talk to me about something very serious. We sat down talking and she says "i'm not sexually attracted to you anymore, i care a lot about you but i don't want to have sex with you or kiss you" and tells me we should take a break. We now are in a 4 month break and will retry our relationship in 4 months. What should i do ? i love her to death and probably couldn't bare it if she does break it off completely. I have gained a bit of weight like 10 kilos (i'm now at 75kilos) maybe that put her off somehow. Can she ever become what she used to be before ? i.e. sexually attracted to me etc ?




Our Suggestion:
If she wants a break, give it to her... permanantly. It's not fair to string you along, especially if she had jealousy issues.

If she broke up with you because you gained wait... move on. You can always lose weight, but she can't change her personality.

--Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com




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