he is scared because he cant cum and he said hes only like 3"

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iv been dating this guy for a wile ....and he and i want to take it a step forword but he is scared because he cant cum and he said hes only like 3" (he wants me to give him a hand job not sex) how should i go about this?




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If you want sex and don't want to give him a handjob first, then it seems to me like you're skipping steps somewhere along the road. It also sounds like he's got some issues around sex that you need to work through before you're going to have a satisfying sex life with him. You should reassure him that really size doesn't matter, it's all what he does with it that makes the difference. I hope you're aware of your body enough that you can help him bring you to a pleasure, and then in turn you can please him. Some guys do have trouble coming, usually out of nervousness and anxiety. So take it easy and don't make it a high pressure situation. Plan your times so that you have a lot of time and can spend it with touching and pleasing without necessarily having to have sex to culminate the evening. Negotiating the sexual battlefield is really tough some times, but if you love one another, then you'll make it through fine. And if you don't love each other, then you shouldn't be in this position anyhow.

Good luck!

--Jenn


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