I believe my past has really determined my present relationship problemsSuggest AdviceDo you have some advice for this person? Visitor's Question: I believe my past has really determined my present relationship problems. As much as I may like a guy and start to have deep feelings for I find my body tensing and holding myself back. No matter how great things seem to get I can't trust him, its always well he hasn't called what is he doing, are their other girls? I get very insecure about myself and the relationship and it damages the relationship. A few years ago I had these dreams that were not making sense, in fact they seemed gross to me. I dreamed that my oldest brother while he was suppose to be babysitting me (I was a child in the dream, really am 23)was experimenting with me so to speak with his penis (we are 10 years a part. This dream haunted me for a while afraid to talk with anyone that I was this sinner I found the courage to talk with my Godmother and mother and go to find out it wasn't just a dream. When I was 6 he melested me for practically a year but I somehow blocked it out. Now I'm seeing this guy who I completely adore and I don't want to risk losing him because of my past. Should I tell him what happened to me, make him understand that this is the reason I'm still a virgin, why I become tense when we attempt to have sex, that I need reassurance that not another man I trust in my life let me down? I don't know what to do? Our Suggestion: It is not unusual for people to block out traumatic emotions. And those emotions, untreated, will cause problems like you are having. My advice is to see a counselor with experience in these matters and get some help. Your idea of telling your boyfriend about what happened is a good one and should help you relax more. Wishing you well! George --Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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