do i keep letting my partner bring up my past when i don't do that to her?

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do i keep letting my partner bring up my past and grill me with questions when i don't do that to her? It's been 2 years since we'e dated and one year of that is marriage...we both have a past but regardless of issues of the past we have gotten married...and that was one a the good things we have gotten over things and GOTTEN married...she brings of issues from the past and the pain of rethinking them has me now getting a little ill...if i said something wrong and don't answer any of the question then she says i am not being understanding caring for her feelings and not letter her get over things...i tell her the past is in the past and us as a whole has gotten us through..her sister has told me that she hangs on to stuff to long and i really am getting a bit pissed cause i want us to live and be totally happy and saying our vows to me washed all the past away...please help me with some sought of answer...thank



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It is totally unreasonable for her to keep dragging up the past.

You need to make that crystal clear to her and that you are setting a limit, say six months after which you will no longer answer questions about your past.

If this doesn't work, you two (especially her) need to see a professional counselor and get some advice.

Good luck!
George

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