I have a tricky situation and feel tired of going to friends about it, I need opinions and input from people outside the situation.
I have been with my boyfriend for almost eight years. About five of them were long distance, him in Sweden, me in the states. We have been living together for about two and a half years.
In the last year we have had many arguments, almost once a week. I had a lot of baggage from a harsh past relationship and life and it came into our relationship, this caused the fighting. My boyfriend wants to take a break, with me leaving to the states for three months. He is the sort who needs a lot of solitude and quiet anyway and said he always had a sense he could live alone but then he met me. He said he knew I was the one and that he loves me deeply, cares about me still and I am very special to him. He said he does not want me to go, but that at this point I have to or else he worries we will break up as a couple. He said he is tired and exhausted and that even though things are slowly getting better, he finds it hard to be close and as affectionate as he feels he can be. He has been more affectionate though, but I also sense how tired he is. I have been trying to have a good attitude about it but also being realistic, that this just may be the end.
I mentioned that I may not come back, because the break is so long and this upsets him, he said he wants me to come back, that he is not breaking up with me but needs to recharge. That when I return he wants to see our relationship with new eyes and try again.
He does not cheat, is not interested in women more than friends and even though i dont like some of his female friends, I trust him.
I am just so incredibly sad and any opinions, thoughts, encouragements, anything - would be greatly welcomed.
Lost in Sweden...
