Probably you will get the whole spectrum of thought on which way you should go. But I'd say you definitely crossed some boundaries already quite knowingly. As to whether you continue and see whether it should be permanent, I'd have to say that will be up to the both of you.

The guy in Iraq wouldn't be the first one to get a Dr. John letter. But how would you feel if it were you?

And what if you travel someday, or what if she travels? Will your relationship be so good that neither one of you will look elsewhere?

And what do you think of yourself? And tomorrow? And next year?

If there's no question that you cannot live without her, if you're "shameless" (like Garth Brooks says), then you'll both have to work to legitimize your relationship.

And if she is the right person, maybe waiting a while is the right thing to do.


Marge is the love of my life.