Sorry but I have to laugh at your "So should I ... a b c" list and at luv my bird's answer (talk about short and sweet!).

My opinion is that no matter how strong an attraction you feel for this woman, I, too, would recommend a, b, and c --- run away!

The main reason I say that is because of something Carl wrote above: "And what do you think of yourself? And tomorrow? And next year?" Even if you both rationalize the whole thing & decide that it is ethical to continue the relationship, there will probably come a day when shame or guilt will hit you.

Also, you said: "She says that she loves who she is around me, and that she is confused and just going with what feels right." I don't want to hurt your feelings, but that sounds like she might be caught up in the moment (the fun, joy, excitement) and isn't necessarily going to be there for the long haul...