MW1 - I would like to offer a word of warning. After you move into your own place, after you stop hurting you may feel like you were wrong and don't need to leave. Please be sure this is the decision you want to make, and not a matter of not hurting anymore.

After I had separated from my first husband, after I stopped hurting, I told my therapist that I felt that I could have made it work if I had stayed. She said anytime I felt that way to please come in and she would play the tapes from our first session so I could remember what kind of pain I was in.

Good luck, you are starting on a scary, exciting adventure.