Hello!
Well, this is a little complicated. I need an advice!!
During my first semester of college, I went to one of the sorority parties (in October) at school and a guy asked me to dance. We danced 3 or 4 songs and i did not know anything about him until November. I asked my friends if they knew who he was and I actually was told that he went to another school but that he was single. because we both belong to the same club but at different colleges, i attended the conference and I saw him but i did not talk to him. I wanted to but I did not dare to do so.
After that i did not know anything about him until January when he created a facebook account. When I found him on facebook I was VERY happy!! So, I sent him a message saying hello and asking him if he remembered me from the party. he replied a couple days later saying that he remembered me and asked me hos school was going. So we had our little conversation going on. Because Spring break was approaching, he asked me if I wanted to hang out during the spring. I was IN SHOCK!!! I never thought he was going to ask me that. I told him I did not know how to drive so he said he was going to pick me up. The first time we talked was on Saint Valentine's day!! He called me like at 11pm because I gave him my number that day through facebook. We talked for like 1.5 hrs...thats a lot for me because I do not feel comfortable talking on the phone. That was on a sunday. On Wednesday of that week, he called me to ask me if i wanted to hang out on Saturday. His plan was to teach me how to drive. But I said "no" because I did not want to learn on his car. Anyway, we hanged up that Saturday like at 7pm. we went to eat and then watched a movie. OHHH AND HE GAVE ME FLOWERS!!! That was SOO COOL!! I returned to my dorm like at 3am. haha
After that he called me almost everyday and we hanged up every saturday after that. I did not use to call him very often. Probably just called him 2 or 3 times total from February to April. He was very sweet! I felt good when i was with him. One time we even went to his house to eat something we had bought. we just ate!! i promise!! his parents were not at his house...so i did not get to meet them.
The second or third time we hanged up he asked me for a kiss. That was my very first kiss!! I was scared and nervous. He was very patient though. He tried to kiss me twice but both times I FAILED!!But no worries, because after that i got better, i think =D...
Everything seemed like my dream come true!! I was SUPER HAPPY but confused at the same time. I was scared of getting into a relationship because I did not want my parents to be upset with me.
He never showed any interest to meet my parents. He even said one time that he did not want me to meet his parents because it was too soon. The problem was that he never asked me if i wanted to be his girlfriend. I really wanted him to do so. So, we kinda assumed we were a couple. We kissed but never had sex...thanks God!!
One time, we went out on a double date with his friend and his friend's girlfriend. we ate sushi and after that we just had ice cream. he returned me to my dorm and well we did a little more than kissing but DID NOT have sex!
He said that the next weekend we were going to hang out but during the week he just called me like once or twice. the next saturday, i wasnt feeling good so i told him that i was not going to be able to hang out. he said ok..he seemed to be ok with it.
the week after. i saw that on his facebook he had a girl's picture on his profile. i was a little jelous so i changed my status to SINGLE and he called me 5 times after i changed it but i did not answer because i did not want to say something i could probably regret later on. I was xxxxxx off because there were some problems going on at that exact time. So i was stressed out because of school stuff, i had problems with my friends, PLUS this problem with him...so...
I did not return the call because it was like 2am already when i saw the 5 missed calls. so the next day he sent me a txt messge saying "we need to talk". so we talked that night. he basically broke up with me because "we did not click". that is what he said at first. but when i asked him why he was breaking up with me he said that he did not have strong feelings for me.
it seemed like he wanted to cry but i dont know if he was faking it. he also said that he did not want to break up with me. but that he had to be honest with himself. i did not cry!! i was just smiling all the time. at the end, i did want to cry but i just didnt! i told him that i was happy as long as he was happy. He said he was surprised because I was not crying and because i was just smiling...He also said that we could still be friends and that i could call him or text him any time i wanted.
He left and it was until he left that it hit me! we were not going to hang out anymore! i could not hold my tears and everything went bad after that. I had a presentation that next day as part of my Final activity in one of my classes. I was crying throughout the presentation. but i never stopped smiling, though.this was on Friday. On Saturday, i sent him a text message asking if we could still hang out as friends. he replied saying yes and that he would call me.
The next day i sent him another text asking if i could call him. he called me like 3 minutes later. we talked for like 30 minutes and towards the end he asked me how i was doing. i knew he was talking about the break up. i just said i was happy and that i would prefer not to talk about that anymore. he said he missed me. i wanted to say a million things but i just didnt say them because i was too proud, i guess. I asked him if he could teach me how to drive and he said yes!! i also told hijm that my goal was to drive to Vallejo this summer because i wanted to go to Six Flags/Marine World, he said i was a little crazy and that he wanted to take me there!! I was very happy when he said it!!...he invited me to hang out the next Sunday. i said OK. but i sent him a message on Thursday saying that i could not go because i had some family stuff to do. so, i called him the next week on Wednesday for his birthday!! we talked for like 1 hr and 45 minutes. Neither one of us mentioned anything about the break up. we were laughing and stuff.
SIGH...i sent him another txt message the next day. he did not reply. i sent another txt the next day (friday)asking if he wanted to come with me to the park because my friend's sister was going to do her first communion. So, i called him an hour later and talked to him...that was the worst thing i could have done. We ended up talking about the break up. I asked what i had done wrong. he kept saying that i didnt do anything wrong and that both of us need space. i believe he was asking for space FOR HIMSELF. he also said that we cannot hang out yet because it was too soon and that we could not be friends YET..for the same reason. The phone call ended when i asked him if he wanted me to stop calling. he said I GUESS. So i believe he does want me to stop calling him. he said he had to go because he had to wake up early the next day.
THat was it. he broke my heart once again.
On facebook, I blocked him because i did not want to bother him anymore. but then i chenged my mind and unblocked him but i found out that i had taken him out of my friends list as well!! so we are not friends on facebook anymore. Last Thursday i went to the college he attends because i was visiting my sister. i was reading a book but then i felt like something made me look up and HE WAS WALKING RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME! he was supposedly talking on the phone. he was wearing sun glasses so he pretended not to look at me. i saw him and looked away like if he was a stranger. the next day, i went back to the college for a meeting. i thought he was at HIS meeting (different club). so on our way to the car, my sister and I saw him talking to his friends ( males and females). i just passed by without saying hi or looking at him. i am almost 100% sure he saw me but ignored me as well.
So now i do not know what to do. i want to call him but i dont want to fight with him. i want to give him his space but i am scared that he will never call me or hang out with me any more. I miss him A LOT! I wonder if he will ever call me!!!
What should i do? I am learning how to drive and my plan is to obtain my license this summer so that i can take him to some place....should i??
I have a feeling that he did not want to break up with me and he just needed time and space. i was going to ask him if he was just playing with me but when he broke up with me, he said "dont think that i was just playing with you because i wasnt. i really was interested in you. I wanted to try! i noticed you were very sweet on facebook and i wanted to try!"
right now, i dont know what to think. I feel like i did not know what i had until i lost it. i want to let him know that i would like to try again..but my friends and sister tell me that i should move on. Plus, almost no one likes him. they say that he is very ...well, i dont know what the word is but he never smiles to strangers. haha...thats just the opposite of me! some people even say that i am too much for him. i dont think so. they say i am too smart and sweet for him and that i deserve some one better!OF COURSE! They are my friends and want to make me smile...that is why i do not know what to do....
Do you think he loves me? was he just playing with me?

Last edited by PDM; 05/23/10 02:12 AM.