Hi
The thing is, though, if this stressful situation continues, you may, indeed, decide to move away from the relationship.
You are already saying:
"The more i think about it the more i think I'm not fully ready for a relationship either because my feelings have completely overwhelmed me and that never ever happens to me. I've still got issues i need to control which i thought i had control over."Maybe you should talk about the fact that the issues you both have might ruin what could be a lovely relationship ~ unless you both get help with this.
Perhaps you could go together for relationship counselling?
What do you think?