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i got pregnant at 17 and im 30 now. the day i found out i was pregnant her dad walked out. he has never been seen or heard from since but its ok cuz i later married a guy who adopted my daughter as his own. i didnt finish high school but im proud to say i do have a GED and am going to college. i didnt think i could do it either so i was gonna let my mom adopt her. the day she was born and i saw her tears come to my eyes. my mom told me if i was willing to try to raise her that she would help me.
i told my mom i wanted what was best for harley. my mom made sure i did what was best for harley. harley is now 12 years old,almost 13 and im so glad my mom decided to let me raise her.
my favorite word in the world now is "mom". and you hear people without children say i love him/ her like my own...you dont know what love really is til you have a child and that child depends on you. i thought i knew what love was but i didnt until i had a child. and now im the proudest mom of 4 beautiful healthy kids.
please dont think ur a bad mom for considering to put her up for an adoption cuz ur not. people have more respect for a person who puts the child up for adoption than has an abortion. also, after so many abortions it is very hard for a woman to carry a child.

Welcome Nichole.

It's very difficult, I think, to say what a pregnant teenager should do, but I think that Nichole's words must be very encouraging to any. Nichole, you have done very well.

I understand that many girls, who go through with an abortion, really regret it afterwards, but many think that it was best for them at the time.

Personallty, I don't think that I could give up my child ~ by abortion or even adoption ~ and each person's personal view is bound to affect the way they might advise someone else.

Thank You PDM! it is very difficult.

I ended up pregnant at 18 and had wondered if I was ready to raise a child. If you give yourself half a chance, I think you'll find out that you are. If you decide to have the baby, I'm not saying it will be easy or you'll be great at everything on the fist shot, but you learn and life still goes on. Having a baby doesn't have to be a hindrance or a burden on your life.
If you decide not to keep the baby, please opt for adoption. THere are soooo many people out there willing to give a child a good, loving home.

Please think long and hard before you make any decisions that can't be called back.
All the best..

yes and my mother had my brother when she was 17 so you probably could handle it just worried tho