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Ok here's the deal I know this girl, and I know she likes me. All her friends told me, and she told my cousin the
same thing, I like her a lot Im just too shy to say anything...
We talk to each other a lot on myspace, but I feel like im
smothering her. I look at her profile constantly
and im always checking if she wrote back. I want to ask her out really badly and her friends are always telling me she's jealous when I talk to other girls. I wanna ask her out and all her friends want me to also... I have no idea what to do because
other people keep meddling in our buisness...
Does she really like me??
What should I do??

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Hi luffy

Talk to her quietly ~ without friends getting involved. If you get the impression that she really does like you, then casually suggest going somewhere together ~ like the cinema ~ or doing homework together. See how it goes from there.

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Well what kinds of things do you have to do where you live?
Bowling, theaters, indoor swimming, outdoors ice skating (in cold climates) roller skating those are just a few of the things I can think of. First off I don't know how old you are I'd say if early in high school maybe get a bunch of your friends together (guys and girls) and go do something fun together. I'm sure no one will take my advise on the next thing I'm going to say but I will anyway ok. If your in school believe me your going to have more than one girlfriend or boyfriend in your life and that's just a fact of life. Rarely do people end up with their first boyfriend or girlfriend as their life partner. So what you want to do is try a group thing it will be lots of fun.
Maybe what you can do is all get together and do one of the above mentioned activities and then see if one of the parents will let you all come back to their house and have pizza or something else and then maybe play some games this may sound silly but I'd bet you would have lots of fun if you give it a try. I think it would be lots easier to ask her also if you knew that you will both have a bunch of friends.
What you may want to do is first find out if your parents would let you have a bunch of kids over. Then approach this girl and ask her if she would like to get together with a bunch of hers and your friends (both boys and girls) It would be like planning a party together it may be a little easier than coming right out and asking for a date. This way you could get to know her a little better and have fun with both your's and her's friends.
Find out first from your folks so you know how many they will let you have over. Also tell them you will help get things ready if they are reluctant. If you can't afford pizza even popcorn and soda would be fun.



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I only see her every once in a while, we went to some kids party
yesterday with a bounce house and i was with her the WHOLE time.
But she mostly followed me around, and we caught each others eyes A LOT of times during the whole day but the other people
just wont leave us alone if I wanna make a move then let ME do it, but they just dont get it all they do is tell her that
"I said I liked her" and they tell me she said the same thing.
I really wanna tell her about it but we have no alone time at all
How should I say this??... Im so confused...

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Does she live near you?
Could you just pop round, without all the friends, and tell her you were thinking of going .. wherever .. and wondered if she'd like to come (since you had a good time together at the party)?


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Im pretty sure she lives not too but not close enough that i can walk there. I can call her but, I want to tell her in person, I just cant find the right time to say anything. Im just too shy...
I really dont care about the other kids anymore I just want both of us to admit it to each other and then we can work something out. Im just gonna invite her somewhere, to a movie or something Ill bring my best friend and Ill tell her to bring someone too.
yup thats exactly what ill do =D Ill tell her then cool

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Good luck!
And well done, for sorting your thoughts out, and not letting the others take over.


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Just one more thing should I go with a friend?? Or without...
Ill leave it up to her. Should I??

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Usually, it might be better if you each have a friend along, but since it is your friends who have been making you feel uncomfortable, I do wonder...

Yes, see what she thinks.


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I did, and she wants to go alone...
Oh gawd :scared: which movie should we watch??
I wanna watch cloverfield,
but should I talk to her during the movie??
Hold her hand or something??
I hate being new to this...
Not that this is my first girlfriend, but I just feel wierd around her and stuff, like when she's near me my heart starts beating way faster (I'm not just saying that it really does!!) And I talk without thinking about what I'm going to say first, Im pretty sure she does it too...
I'm thinking about her as I type!!
What the hell is going on with me???

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This is young love!

Just relax and be yourself.

Ask her to choose the film ~ you could always put forward your suggestions.

Hand-holding can be nice.


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I thought I'd quote this from your other thread:
Originally Posted By: luffy
I'm moving To New Jersey
from Florida away from the girl I Really Like!!!
Wow this sucks but I'm moving in 3 weeks!!
What should I do before I Leave??
I do, however, Know for a fact
that I'm gonna visit her when I
come back to Florida...
This is horrible...
I was looking forward to moving until I met HER!!
Now we really are moving away but I can
keep in touch but I wanna SEE her not just type and
talk on the phone... shocked

http://www.wineintro.com/forum/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=245028#Post245028


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Aaaahhh yes, that horrible, horrible quote.
It's bad it really is, but I found this out AFTER I started writing to you guys So I'll make this something I doubt she'll ever forget cool

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I've been wondering... is it normal to kiss her during the movie?? cuz I don't know whether to do it or not We've had moments just like right there in each others faces where we could've but there were other people around
I want to do it during the movie so noone will see... is it right??

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I think that only you two can decide this one.

Some people would think it was fine; some might disapprove.
I suppose it depends on how discreet you are.


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I have no more questions... how do I delete this thing??
If i cant can someone do it for me?

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Why do you want to delete it?
Threads are not usually deleted.


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Meh, I dunno I just felt like it, but not anymore,
I just can't find the right time to get near her
in the way that I'd like to...

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Obviously you would like to be close by holding her hand and perhaps giving her a kiss. They both are for you to decide. I will share with you that it is very romantic to also kiss a girls hand and sometimes a little easier to do in public.



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Give it time!


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It already happened,
and it was the best
4 seconds of my life cool
she's coming back this friday
and, she said she likes me
she admitted it laugh

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Congratulations!! smile


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Hey guys!!
It's been awhile...
hmmm Im back!
well I for some reason just stopped talking to that girl...
at first i missed her.. but I dont think that she's moved on.
I feel bad but Im in New Jersey now so theres really nothing I can do. I have a new trouble however.
School, dating and other things..
well Im about to pass the 8th grade and i just finished a project
which boosted my grades up awesomely! laugh
about dating though..
Ive met quite a few people im interested in
but im afraid Ive made the wrong first impression
also, everyone i am interested in likes someone who should've
graduated like 10 years ago!!(exxageration)

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I'm sorry to hear about the girl you liked. She must have wondered why you stopped talking to her. That must have been really upsetting and confusing for her.
Was she all right?

I'm glad that you are doing well at your new school.
Why have you made a bad impression?


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Hmmm..
Actually she stopped talking to me.
And I don't really know that I have made a bad impression
I just feel like I have or I just feel intimidated
by those people who are waay older than me.
I dont let it get to me though..
I'm just focusing on middle school
to go to high school and be successful in life laugh

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Hi

Sorry, I misunderstood when you said 'I for some reason just stopped talking to that girl'.
So you must have felt confused and upset.

Perhaps that, together with your move, have left you feeling vulnerable and lacking in confidence.
Maybe that's why you feel a bit intimidated, especially if the people in question are so much older.

As you say, just stick to settling in, getting on with schoolwork & making friends your own age for now. smile

Good luck & take care!


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Will do smile
I'll be back soon to post some more if I have any more problems!
Goodbye and thank you!

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Hmmm.
Ok I'm talking to someone else now,
Yet, she lives in Orlando FL, and I live in NJ
So, my uncle visits over there every summer or so
and I just got her number.
One problem, I went to school
with her cousin and he's putting in a bad word for me.
Now, I just finished talking on the phone with her,
She's 15 and I'm 14 but I really don't care about that much.
We have A lot in common and I make her laugh A lot,
She has a Boyfriend so I set my Boundaries to that.
...I like her.
we've been talking on the Computer for weeks now
and I feel like we can feel comfortable telling stuff to each other. Does this sound like a love thing,
or a Best Friend thing?

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Originally Posted By: luffy
.... Does this sound like a love thing,
or a Best Friend thing?


Only you can answer that ~ but at 14, it's unlikely to be a 'one & only' love, you know. smile


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Nah I didn't mean it that way, although that is likely,
I'm well aware that the chances for that are very slim.
Wow. she's in High School, but it turns out I was actually confused, I've always known she was in High School I just had it mixed up. It felt A lot easier to talk to her when I thought she was in Middle School but I guess when I graduate, I'll be in High School, and it won't feel so wierd anymore. She broke up with her Boyfriend the day after she met me, I found that wierd but it doesn't really bother me. I don't care what her cousin says about me anymore , I like keeping it a secret wink

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Well, it sounds as if it would be nice to stay friends with her, whether ot not it develops romantically.


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I talk to her too much...
I've wasted almost ALL of my minutes
of my Phone just talking to her...
It's very addicting, she just makes me feel,
I dunno, Happy to hear her voice.
As I recall, I was NOTHING like this with
the girl I was with in Florida.
With her, I can be myself.

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Just give it time & see what happens.

Take care!


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lol this thread is adorable. It reminds me of being in middle and high school when I worried and stressed over crushes too.
Luffy you are young and should enjoy being young. But please be careful at the same time.

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