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I think you start with that, and see how it goes. Takes the pressure off her, and you, too - for that matter. Being friends is not really all that simple. If you are a good friend, and feel an attraction as well, the chances are better, I think, that you will act responsibly in romance.

Also, to be blunt, you will need to regain her trust.

Please note that I am not saying that you need to walk around feeling guilty. With any couple, each will sometimes do things that hurt the other. If the hurt can be forgiven, you learn from it and go on. In time, your relationship may be better than you thought it was at first.

It will be honest.

The main thing that I got from what PDM said is that if she does not want to have a romantic relationship with you, can you be "big" enough to be a good friend?

And if you think you're not quite strong enough yet for that, tell her so, without emotional blackmail.

Are you definitely going to be seeing her?

If so, you should get an idea, then, about how things really stand from her point of view.

But try not to pressure her ~ if you do, you could possibly only push her further away.

She has made virtually no effort to contact me since she has split up, I don't know what her reasons are for that (space to heal, to think or just to get me out of her life) either way an honest answer would suite me fine. She talked about seeing me, but like i said she seemed to go cold by saying "maybe before I go home". Im not going to get my hopes of seeing her, I'll just wait to see how things turn out. I love this girl with all my heart, and weve both done things to hurt each other, at the end of the day I can't bring her back, it must be her choice, I just hope shes happy and that I can be soon. Thanks for all the help I really appreciate it, It means a lot to know that I can come on here and talk to people that I don't know to get an outsiders opinion.:) thank you

I could be wrong - and I know you hope I am, but it seems to me that you already have your answer. The "maybe" may be some ambivalence or even some feeling tender about the past, but it may be that she senses that the two of you together is not something that feels right to her.

Expect nothing, do your grieving, and work on your own life. This last is more important than anything else right now, I believe.

Who knows what the future will bring?

I have to agree with Carl, I'm, afraid.