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i will deff suggest a holiday when hes in a good frame of mind. hes got 3 weeks of straight work atm and hopefully after that he may get a few days off.PLUS his work have just made him work 5 weeks straight and now this 3 weeks hell NEED a holiday !!! only days he had off was xmas and boxing day (which he spent with me when he was meant to be going to his families) explain that to me ???

I think that you stand a good chance of making a go of this. He obviously enjoys being with you ~ plus you have his child.

well i truely do hope so ...thanks for the posts it is good talking to someone else other then family or him about it ...its great to get other peoples opinions and to know that maybe there might be a chance....fingers crossed...


mind you he keeps txting me, sometimes about our daughter others just general chit chat....so he obviously cant stop talking to me...i have not once in the past two days sent him a txt first!!!

Good luck!

well weve had a turn for the worst. the [censored] of one of his friends has xxxxxx in his ear again and he doesnt want to know me again .....i cant keep going on like this, but i deff dont want to give up !!!!He said ive got a slim chance in hell of living with him again and hes come to his sense's !!! two days ago he was talking to me fine and telling me to take care of myelf etc ....today hes being an xxxx cos this friend of his misinterperated something i had on facebook and went running to him to tell him ......so now weve fought again over what happend and hes not talking to me....:'( this is killing me SOO MUCH i jsut want us to be a family again

You cannot make him believe in you and trust you. And you cannot make him love you.

Sad, but at the same time, what would such a love be like, where you are required to be just what he wants?

All you can do is to be whom you are. If he cannot love the you that you are, then it may be better to live without him.

I know that hurts. I've been there, so I understand better than you may think.

The thing is, others can advise him, but only he can make the decisions.

It sounds as if he is easily convinced.
He trusts you when he is with you.
He trusts his family and friends when he is with them.

He needs to really sort this out for himself and make his own decisions.

But is this what you really want ~ a man who relies on other people to make his mind up for him.

I'm guessing that the worst thing for him is being reminded that you have been with another man.
When he is with you, and enjoying life with you, he can put that out of his mind.

The other thing is, what was it about him that made you think that he didn't love you in the first place.

I still recommend counselling.
Would he consider it?

i think that is the most annoying thing that he listens to who hes with at the time and not to HIMSELF!?

im going to offer to take him away for a holiday (on me) he needs a holiday and it would be goof ro us 3 to get away with no one else there to dictake to him.

i will ask about counciling to him if we get more serious ...now i think it would be pointless to ask...

i had a full time night job and he had a day job so we saw each other 30 mins each day at the "swap over" when i got up in the mornings he was gone and when i got home at night he was in bed asleep so we never saw each other so grew appart. I had this other guy in my ear and it sounded better then what i was living in ( i worked with him so saw him all the time, typical thing really) i was with him for 2 months only so really just a fling. but when we broke up he begged and begged me not to leave. i can understand his hatrid for me but hes diff when were together and hes done some things that someone who hatres someone wouldnt do so its very confusing !!!!!! theres been so many other things he could have done at times but he chose to stay with me ...so really i dont know...

Time will tell.
You may need to be patient.
Good luck!