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Hey Guys. For those who remember me I hope have been well in your life. For those who don't know me,"Hi, how you doing?"

Well I'm coming back with an issue with myself. I'm no longer addicted to porn or anything like that, I'm just having issues with getting a woman into a relationship with me. She know's I like her and we are keeping it a friendly level cause I don't wanna risk what we have. For some time now she's been working with me on my DJ business and that's how we hang out is when i have gig's to DJ. The problem is that there other guys that like her, but they are in other states and such that she talk's to a webcam site called stickam. I was able to talk to some of them, and I'm already sick of them and all the other guys/perverts that talk to her. For those who don't know I am a christian and very strong in my beliefs. AS far as I know I'm the only one that is her age that goes to church, I even to go to her church at nights, but that's kind of hard without a car. Anyhow, If this aint enough info I'll post some more in a bit, I gotta get ready for college. take care and God Bless yall.


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Hi Lee

Yes, of course I remember you smile

You can't really influence a woman to want to date you, except by being yourself and hoping that she likes you.

Girls like men to be interested in them, of course, and they like them to be clean and to small nice, etc.

So, just be yourself, be pleasant, show an interest and make sure that, if you will be seeing her, you have showered, washed your hair, brushed your teeth and put on clean clothes. That's all I can suggest, really.

The fact that you are both church-goers must be in your favour.

You cannot stop her showing an interest in other boys and you cannot stop other boys liking her ~ but, if you are worried that some are strangers, and may be perverts, then, maybe, she needs a warning about the potential dangers. She needs to be safe.

You say that she knows that you like her, but you imply that she just wants to be friends, so you may just have to accept that.

A good relationship is one where both parties like, and are attracted to, each other ~ and really want to spend time together.

Good luck smile


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Thanks PDM. I now see i worded that wrong. I'm not try to force her to like me, cause all I am is being myself, and trust me I'm not the type to take women anywhere smelling like a pig. I'm not a slob. Yes she knows I do, and I've been keeping it at a friendly level, at least trying to anyhow.

AS far as other boys are concerned, It's not that I don't mind her showing interest in other guys, I just wish they were guys that aren't stupid. Like I said about this stickam site, it shows statics about how many people are viewing your web cam. Well I pop in every now and then but I make my presence known, but there are other would like to see her without being known. I mean I was looking at her statics the other day there were 500 viewing, but only like 15 actually interacting. This bothers me a lot.

enough on that thing though, I am being friendly to her, showing care in a way that doesn't freak her out. So I'm really trying my best. I've already gone great lengths to help her, and I don't want people to think that I deserve her just because of what I'm doing for her, that's not me at all, I do what I do cause she needs help. She has financial issues and I'm just trying to supply her needs the best I can, but honestly there is a longing inside that cries for her.

I'm gonna continue with what I have been doing, cause it appears to be somewhat working, as a I don't over do it.


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Hello Lee

I wasn't suggesting that You were attempting to force her to like you, simply stating / confirming that feelings cannot be manipulated ~ as you know.

It was you who mentioned 'having issues with getting a woman into a relationship', so I wonder, then, what you meant by this?

The truth is that any man worried about 'getting a woman into a relationship' can do very little other than be himself ~ but perhaps a special version of himself ~ as I said before; extra clean, tidy, interesting and interested ~ but even then, if the chemistry is not right, there isn't much to be done.

I, too, would be concerned about unknown men viewing a girl on a webcam, so I think that this girl may need to be reminded of the potential dangers.

If all that she wants is friendship, though, then your 'longing inside that cries for her' may go unrequited.


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Ok Sorry about the misunderstanding on that whole force thing.

When I said "having issues getting into a relationship", is I wanna say I'm a little rusty so to say. I haven't been in anything like so since my second girlfriend. As you know my first girl was when I 18 and now I'm working on 3. I am being really careful with my emotions this time around I want to know that she is the one. My emotions however can be out of wack during the first two weeks since they have been developing inside. This tends to happen and can lead to a more obsessive me. Which is what happened with my first. SO I waited until these feeling toned down before I let her know I liked her.

As far as chemistry is concerned and that whole a special version of me, I'm trying to mold myself into something along those lines. I'm gonna start this P90X workout and diet thing, also, trying to reconnect with the side of me that had the more creative side. I start all this tomorrow.


Lee Willam Huntley IV
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