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Re: Forgiveness [Re: Lisa Shea] #425349 03/10/14 04:11 AM
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Finally tackled Day 19 of the forgiveness book I'm reviewing. It was to write a letter to yourself forgiving yourself. I kept putting it off as it seemed challenging. So finally I put fresh, clean sheets on the bed, fresh batteries into my LED candles, poured a large glass of water, and snuggled in with my laptop. And just wrote.

It was a good process. I think the work the previous 18 days on forgiveness did help. I'd thought about a lot of issues and was able to be more gentle with myself than before. I have made mistakes. I learned from them. I can't change the past. I can only do the best I can with each future day - each fresh opportunity.

If I "waste" energy on feeling upset about things I can't change, that is energy I can't apply to making this current day as productive as it could be. I have SO many projects that need to be done. People rely on me. I owe it to them to be fully present in now and fully dedicated to making this current day work well. Yes I want to learn from the past - but to wallow in it serves no good for the current people who need me. I should focus all my energy today on doing today's tasks as well as I can, with all the energy and spirit that I have.

I'm slowly getting there. But the letter did help.

I do suggest trying the daily exercises and then writing yourself a letter. Every step helps a little bit.


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Re: Forgiveness [Re: Lisa Shea] #425369 03/27/14 06:34 PM
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Forgiveness project - wrote a long private essay about my ex to help release those emotions. I was 18-and-a-month when I married. Too young. The past is in the past, and I need to release any tangle of emotions from that so I can more fully participate in my projects of the now.


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Re: Forgiveness [Re: Lisa Shea] #425612 11/25/14 11:11 PM
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I still think about this project - it was very worthwhile. I highly recommend people give it a try.


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Re: Forgiveness [Re: Lisa Shea] #426592 01/25/20 02:51 AM
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I just had an online conversation with a software developer, where his language was less than respectful. Rather than escalate, I stepped back and let him know I was done talking about the issue.

I'm learning more to take those steps back. I can't change other people when they use inappropriate language.

People in a customer service role who aren't capable of talking professionally with customers need to learn their skills. It's not up to me, the customer, to teach them that.


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