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Hello,
I'm a single mom with a little girl, just trying to make a good life! I like hanging with family, friends, camping and boating. I have heard about online dating sites, is there any free dating websites where can I find my partner?
Thanks in advance!
Posted By: Anonymous Re: Possible to find your life partner through a site - 02/04/09 04:19 PM
My son and daughter both met their partners on a Jewish dating service. This might not be the service for you, but I'm a believer in online dating sites. Just be careful.
Hi kristi491 & welcome. smile

I don't know anything about online dating, I'm afraid, but I agree that you need to be very careful.

Never meet a stranger alone in a quiet place, etc.

Good luck, though smile
Posted By: Anonymous Re: Possible to find your life partner through a site - 02/05/09 01:06 AM
Never meet at your house. Meet at a crowded restaurant or coffee shop.Don't let a stranger know where you live. Take your own car, if possible.
Hi, there are many dating and matchmaking websites around, most of them are payable but I know a 100% free dating site among of them called http://www.usaloving.com/ . You can find a life partner through a dating site. Dating sites allow one to find out many things about each another before the first meeting. Best of luck for the future!!
Cheers!
I met my fiance and the father of my next kid online laugh

It was a dating site, we were both very careful though. We chatted on the site for a while before even exchanging msn- and the we chatted on msn a while before we met. We met in a very public place- a mall (when it wasn't busy) and we just went for a walk around the mall, and had a coke in the food court.

Try to make sure it is a place that has people, but is not crowded, if something were to happen, and it is very crowded, things tend not to be noticed, and if they are most time, crowd-apathy will prevent anyone from helping.

It's relatively safe, but you just have to keep your head about you.

Don't let him meet your kids until you are sure he is a normal person you are interested in.

And remember, online dating is like putting in an extra step. Just becuase they seem cool online, doesnt mean they are. You have to meet the person a few times to ensure they aren't having an online persona. And once you like the person THAN think about dating them...

That's how I did it. I met a few people from that site, and some were flat out strange. (one guy proposed on the second date, and tried to buy me a parrot!) But if you have realistic expectations, and you are careful, you can find a potential, I did!
There is a reliable free trustworthy and safe way to meet singles. Choose an activity where there is a group of people meeting for reasons other than just social. People you meet in these circumstances are usually giving and trustworthy people who have higher moral values.

I am talking about volunteer organizations and church gatherings. Book clubs and philanthropic organizations. Recreational clubs IE: chess,music,skiing. Discussion groups. Political volunterism groups. Organizations for change. Mentoring organizations.

You are benefiting your community, your own well being and you are meeting nice people in a group setting that is safe. It is definitely free since you are usually giving your time. Some clubs charge club dues but they usually are very small.

Good idea, Jo.

Also societies would be good to join ~ then you know that you are likely to have something in common ~ eg: Family History, Stamp collecting, amateur Dramatics, etc.
the fatc remains though, and this is why I went with internet dating...

If you are a single parent, babysitters are not always readily available. I know for me, I looked online, becuase I may be able to organize the odd hour or so, but regularly, it wouldnt be feasable.

Also, I would never ever go to a group organization like that, I am just flat out too shy. And even if you could get me there, there is no way I would approach someone there.

It's a good idea, but interenet dating defiantely has it's good sides too.
There are also groups where families are welcomed. Parents without partners. Cub scouts. Social organizations for the children. The parents socialize and you meet people who know you have children right from the start. It eliminates the sometimes awkward moment when you announce to an interested person that you have "children". Some singles may know you have children but when they finally meet, they don't hit it off. It also means that a prospective partner can appreciate being a parent. Online dateing is certainly been good for a lot of people and I would never condemn it but I think many other options lessen the chance of meeting someone who may be a preditor looking for a single mom with a child. Group situations give you a chance to see the person interact and you can pick up on subtleties and see how they get along with others and children. There is nothing that replaces first hand observation. Sometimes a glance or a look or impatience tells a story.
Hey guys, I was just considering the same avenue, we have a good free site that i know a few people have used around my area and they were happy with it, one man who is a nurse was just to busy and he found his future wife online.
I am older but people peg me usually a good 10 years younger and this has made it difficult, I am tired of 20 somethings hitting on me.
Alot of clubs etc. are expensive and I hate sports, so that knocks out a lot of socializing opportunities. I took a Spanish course once (again $$$$) and same thing young men, there was 1 my age and he was nice but not my type really.
I mean where else can I go?
I met my husband on an online dating website. Although meeting people thru friends and social gatherings can be considered ideal for vetting weird-os i have to say that most men i met thru those means were top of the line jerks. I felt a bit more in control when I went online, its more anonymous & I can just delete the jerks instead of having them haunt my phone, work, or home. I got a lot of comments when i told people I was on an online dating website but seriously all they ever knew from that was watching "to catch a predator"...lol
I was suprised at how easy it was to find out about someone by just sending messages back & forth. One guy sent me this really sappy introduction message & sent my roommate the exact same message (she tried the website the same as me ...safety in numbers!). Another guy everytime I mentioned something he would respond in such detail it was impressive...till I realized he was just copying/pasting from wikipedia. Online dating can be fun if you can keep your sense of humor...and remember you dont ever have to meet anybody.
I'm hoping soon online dating will loose some of its bad image. Yes there are lots of freaks but just like meeting people thru more traditional means you have to keep your wits about you and not move too fast. My best friend also met her husband thru the same site & my other two friends met theirs thru forums. I also know someone who met the love of their life while playing World of Warcraft lol.
Sorry to go on and on but I am a true believer in people (adults) trying online dating at least once if they are actively looking, I actually went online partly cause i was convinced there were no single men in my area. But i'm glad I did cause there was no way I would of met my hubby thru regular means and he is truly my soulmate.
Hurray another success story, I would love to hear your hubbys take on why he did it?
I know he can't speak for every man, but sometimes you wonder if you are gonna run into the same thing as bars, predators, liars, married men or guys just looking to hook up for a night.

I am hoping that by my age there may be a few keepers around who are just not having any luck .
Well, Coco's mama I took online dating the same way as I would meeting a guy normally, with a grain of salt. I found that when i would meet a guy in person first I would be so caught up in looks and usual nerviousness i would miss the subtle clues that he was not right for me. When I chatting online I could relax and really pay attention to his mind and what he had to say. My hubby & I spent the first week just instant messenging each other for about 3-5 hours a night & it was the most delightful and humorous time I had ever had with a man...and we were just typing!

As for my hubby he is a shy guy and tried to meet girls in social settings but he found that he could never be himself and open up cause of his introvert-ness. Plus he really wanted to meet a woman who he really could talk to, he was tired of meeting shallow people. We were both the first (and only) person to meet for a date from online but he has some funny stories about some freaky girls he chatted to online....ha ha it goes both ways.

The funniest thing i did was right before I posted my profile I did a search for man looking for woman in my age range just to check out my "competition" in the area. All I have to say is WOW, there were some women who seemed normal but... holy cow... there were some women who really scared me. I guess some guys might like a woman who threatens to beat them if they dont pay for dinner but that just seems odd to put on your profile.

My roommate & I had the funnest evening with a bottle of wine & a search engine that night smile
Haha competition check lolz, that is funny, i am so doing that!!!
Interesting.
This is not something I know much about, but it is something that would probably worry me.

However, you are right, any man could be a criminal con man, whether met online or in a pub, and, certainly, after being on the forum, there are people I feel I know very well, even though I wouldn't recognise them in the street. smile

Food for thought smile
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