How do u know?
I mean, like if a girl goes 'off and on' when it comes to making contact w/ u or just being around you. Which is what I think is happening to me. So am I being played?
and if so what do I do about it?
even tho I would hate to I guess I could just try and forget she ever existed.....

Just to put people in the picture:
http://www.wineintro.com/forum/ubbthread...6664#Post256664

yeah, that's my thread. But its gotten to the point where I feel like she's playing me. I am starting to see the patterns, off and on, off and on of lack of communication.
Well, its over, I'm not playing anymore.

Fair enough ~ you have to do what you think is right.

you have to do whatever your heart and your head can agree on

Totally, zoo. Perfectly said.

However, i don't think that you should give up on her so easily. You have a complete right to if that is what you really want, but personally I think that you should try talking to her about it first. It could totally be something else. She might not be playing you at all.

Hey thanks guys you all have been great.

okay, its been a while since we've spoken.....
to be honest I miss just talking with her, it seems as if every day that goes by that I don't talk to her I just fall deeper into regret....deeper into misery...what could have been
If only I knew what she was thinking....
Zoo, yes that was perfect, that's what I have to do.
Kelsey, it is so hard to just give up u are right, when I keep asking the question what could have been? If I am to talk to her again, how would I find out what is going on, just come out and ask or what?

I don't know what to say.

If she definitely doesn't want to be with you, then I'd say that you are just going to have to cope with your feelings, until time enables you to get over all this.

However, if she really does like you, and has reasons for her behaviour, then maybe you should give the relationship another go.

The thing is, you don't know which it is.
You can either give up, or try to find out the truth.

How about a letter explaining how you feel?
~ Confused at her behaviour; willing to give the relationship another go if she is serious about it; but wanting to draw a close to it, if there is nothing there, so that you can mend your bruised heart and move on.

Whatever your head & heart decide, and whatever you discover, try to be positive, so that you can face the future confident that there is a 'Miss Right' out there for you.

Good luck!

Thanks PDM, I am definitely thinking about that letter, thing is I'm scared of losing her as a friend atleast depending on what would happen with the letter

If you keep on like this, chances are you won't be good friends for long anyway. I think the best thing to do is to wirte the letter. Atleast that way the feelings are out there for her to know, and you won't have any regrets about not saying enough.

That's true as well. I think I'm going to start drafting a letter.
See I've had this happen before only I was on the receiving end and in the letter the girl wanted to start a relationship with me and take it to the next level and I don't know if I was just scared at the time or if I just didn't feel like she was the one but I said I just wanted to be friends and I think it hurt her pretty bad but she got over it and found another guy who I think is a way better suit for her. I mean we still talk and everything as friends but I just felt so bad that I hurt her like that. I guess I just don't want the same to happen to me. But I think it is worth the gamble to find out.

i think so too