ok so recently i was hanging out with this girl after a wedding that i met the day of, but because i am friends with her best friend, i had talked to her on the phone a few times before and somewhat knew her. we danced together at pretty much every dance and when it was done hung out all night. we slept in the same bed...and madeout...among other things. Now i am a sucker for this kind of stuff, but im not sure if this girl would do this kind of stuff just for a fun night. we didn't go all the way so its not like it was a one night stand....so how often would a girl do this kind of stuff just for fun? oh and after it was all over i was on the way home and she told me to call her and we just casually talked for a while. any help?

i'm afraid i can't help you... i had only one man in my life. we had 23 yrs together. i am a widow now (due to cancer) and i don't believe there will be another man in my life. all i can tell you is to take it slow, you have to watch out for yourselves and each other.

You are asking a general question about women in general. There is no answer, every one is an individual. If you want specific answers...the best way to find out is to ask the girl. That is the only way to find out what she is used to doing or not doing for fun.

Take care, be smart, if you decide not to be smart, be safe.

Hello JMH & welcome

There are girls who would only do this with someone they considered their 'one and only'.

There are girls who do this for fun, with any boy they find attractive.

So, yes, Jo is right ~ you cannot generalise.

This girl may even be wondering the same thing about you.

You can only find the answer by asking her ~ and, even then, you may not get the reply that you want or need.

If you are going to spend nights in bed with girls, be sure that you have protection with you.

Unwanted pregnancies and STDs are a serious matter.

Just because you didn't 'go all the way' this time doesn't, necessarily, mean that you are safe from these risks.

Remember, in future, that it isn't always easy to stop something you have started.

And there can be emotional repercussions ~ for both parties.

Be careful.

Good luck!

hey JMH and hey guys...

I think PDM is alright when he said "this girl may even be wondering the same thing about you", and i'm sure she is waiting you to dicide if you want it just fun or you want it serious relation... so i think you have to dicide. and like PDM said; get protection with you if you dicide to make that fun...

Good luck