hi i am 16 years old and am a junior in high school. the new semester started about a week ago. there is this girl in my class that sits right behind me, and i want to start talking to her. i looked in the yearbook from last year and i found out that she plays golf. and i play golf too. so i was thinking that i would eventually ask her to play a round with me or something. the only thing is, idk how to start up a conversation with her. and then once i do, what do i say? most people tell me to ask questions and find out more about her. so what kind of things should i ask? and is there anything that i shouldn't ask?

thanks

I see what you mean ---- it would be weird to just suddenly turn around and say, "Let's talk golf!"

You could just say something like "Hi -- how's it going?" and see how she responds, or you could say you were looking in last year's yearbook and you noticed that she plays golf and you do, too.

Take things slowly, rather than rush questions at her, and then see she how she responds to you. Good luck!

yea i don't have a problem first starting to talk with her. after we start getting to know each other ill ask if she plays any sports and then so on... but what i need help on is what to talk about while we are playing. because a game of golf takes pretty long, at least 2 hours for 9 holes. and idk what ide talk to her about then.

Hello Pat needs help ~ welcome

It sounds, to me, as if you don't know much about her ~ and probably she doesn't know much about you, either.

Therefore, you might well have a lot to talk about.

There are lots of questions you could ask ~ I have listed a few below ~ but don't let it become an interrogation; it needs to be a conversation.

Think what your own answers to these questions might be and let your discussion flow back and forth.

Good luck!

What are her hobbies ~ other than golf?
What music does she like?
How about films & plays?
What is her favourite film?
Does she enjoy Shakespeare?

Does she paint or draw?
Is she a photographer?
Does she dance or sing or play a mucical instrument?

Does she watch much TV?
What programmes does she like?
What's her favourite?
Does she like comedy or does she prefer drama?

Does she belong to any sports clubs?
Does she swim? Go bowling?

What school subjects does she enjoy?
Which ones is she good at?
Which doesn't she like?

Does she enjoy travelling?
Does she go away on holiday?
Has she been to Europe?
To the UK?
Where would she like to go?
Has she been camping?

Does she like animals?
What pets does she have / has she had / would she like?

Does she have brothers & sisters?
Does she have a holiday job?

Will she go on to college / university?
Where would she like to go?
What subject would she like to study?

What are her ambitions?
Does she have a profession in mind?

Can she drive?
Is she learning?
What cars does she like?

What sort of food does she like?
Does she like ice-cream?
Is she vegetarian?

Does she go to church?
Has she been to summer camp?

Etc, etc, etc

yea ur right idk anything about her, i just wanted to kinda plan it out before anything

so thanks a lot, you're a ton of help

Good luck!

ok im really confused now. i asked her to go to the driving range with me. but she said no and said because she hates going there and she also said "nothin against you." so idk if she said no because she really hates going to the range, or if she just doesn't like me. like idk if she said nothing against you just to make me feel better or something. so what should i do? keep trying for her? or forget about her?

Hi.

Well she did say she hated the range, but had nothing against you ~ so that may be true.

However, she didn't suggest any alternative, either.

Maybe she was being shy, or maybe she isn't interested in going out.

Did she say why she hated the driving range if she loves golf?
Perhaps you could ask her this.

Maybe she finds it boring and would prefer a full game of golf.
You could always suggest a round ~ or ask if she'd rather do something else.

If she still sounds uninterested, then you should probably look elsewhere

Good luck!