I really, really think that you might want to take some time in your life to try to let go of her, in your thoughts ---- try to focus on activities, other people, etc. She's only 14 and sounds pretty confused (and rude to you). I think you are absolutely right about this: [quote=ßÄУµÇK1674] She is blaming me for it probably because she feels guilty and its her way of making her feel less guilty. [/quote] So maybe she needs some time and space to grow up, and maybe you need to focus on yourself and your own growing/learning/confidence... :)