I agree completely with MW1 here. For example we may love chocolate ice cream. But we choose not to eat it 24 hours a day. We *definitely* as mature adults make decisions about what to do with our lives and that includes most importantly who we allow into them. If this person is abusive then you need DISTANCE. You should never, ever let yourself be abused. That is an absolute minimum statement.
It's fine to say you're attracted to him. You'll be attracted to MANY men in your life. But you cannot let him BE with you if he is going to abuse you.
