Hi Bilco
I think it could be that she just likes you as a friend ~ as she says ~ but that it feels good to have you there, anyway, if she doesn't have a current boyfriend.
So why can't she go out with you?
She's still a bit in love with someone else.
You don't/didn't drive safely.
You smoke/d.
You aren't the right religion.
Her parents may not approve.
Well, maybe; maybe not.
I'd feel worried about going out with someone who didn't drive carefully and I'd have a real problem with someone who smoked. Coming from an RC family, I know that religious differences can still be mega-important ~ especially for parents ~ so she may be speaking truthfully.
On the other hand, she's hardly been excited to discover that you have given up cigarettes and hasn't encouraged you to go to church with her, so I'm guessing that they are all excuses. Or am I wrong?
If you want to know what she wants and thinks ask her ~ and tell her that you want the truth.
Otherwise, look for someone who might care a bit more for what you want, as well as what she wants.
Last edited by PDM; 09/01/07 07:23 PM.