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Um, hi ^^ This year I'm finally trying a relationship. Yeah, I've never been in one before. I've had my first kiss last year but I've never thought of doing anything serious. So yeah. I knew this guy since last year. He's sweet and cute and everything. Yeah, I can't think straight and whatnot with him in my mind. Clichè, I know. So he's been by boyfriend' since Valentine's Day this year. More clichèness. I'm the one that asked though ^^! We went to the movies once last year and it was cool. He had his first kiss with me and we're really into each other. I never thought anyone would ever fall in love with a girl like me, because: 1. I'm emo 2. I'm psychotic (need I say more?) and cold 3. I have breakdowns or breakouts (either falling into depression or going into such a rage that no one can even touch me) 4. I can't walk right (been diagnosed with a problem in my legs) 5. I cut myself (or I used to. stopped it) But hey, he puts up with me. We're both weird. Anyways, I was hoping I could ask you guys for pointers for first timers like myself. My friends were quite shocked that I'm inexperienced because I talk as if I had experience. Advice, pwetty pwease?

Have you ever sought professional psychological help? I'm not trying to be rude here or anything, but self injury and depression are both very serious matters. It's great that you've found someone that accepts you for who you are (haha, I still haven't) but it seems like this might be something you're not quite ready for. (but it's okay if you are!! trust me, it's not a bad thing!)
by the way, how old are you?

if he is really comfortable with you as a perrson, then just be yourself, i guess. if he knows who you are and what you're like, then he knows what he got himself into and he knows what to expect. don't let the xxxxxx things in life get you down, and realize that this may be the start of something. try and be happy =]
(even though i know that may be hard sometimes)

welcome to the forum, and I hope to see you stick around here.

Thanks for the reply. I haven't spoken to anyone professional about the cutting thing but I have gone for the whole dperession do. I'm much better now than a while ago. My friends helped me a lot when I couldn't talk to an adult.

I've just turned 15yrs old. Yeah, it's embarrassing really. I look younger than what I am.

First off just be yourself, you shouldnt change for anyone. I dont want to be a downer or anything but also dont get too caught up with this guy, like dont make him your world, you are still really young and have alot ahead of you. I was 15 when i met my now husband, we had a baby when i was 18 and then got married when i was 19. I love him alot dont get me wrong, but sometimes i just wish that i had lived a little more before i got really serious with him. But anyways just be yourself and if he really likes you then that is all that should matter.

it's always good to have supportive friends, everyone needs someone they can talk to. the thing is, can you be entirely, absolutely, open with your friends? a professional would really be of great assistance in many areas. Some things like this are really hard to get through by yourself, and having an adult there that passes no judgement is a good thing.
just a thought.



anyway, since you're only 15, just take it slow and be yourself. there's nothing really else you can do. also, this is cliche but true:
dont let him (or anyone else)talk you into or force you to doing something you dont want to do or are not comfortable with.
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Thank you ^^. I try not too get to excited about him. I've read and heard a lot about first time boyfriends so I know quite a few possible outcomes. I always do my homework before jumping into something.

Well, yesterday he tried to french kiss me and I stopped him. Both he and I are clear about being open with each other and telling each other when we feel uncomfortable. I just don't think I was ready for that.

I can talk to my friends about anything. They've helped me a lot even while I was seeing a professional and I could always count on them when things got rough.

Oh yeah, the thing between me and him is a secret to both our families. My dad will freak if he found out coz I'm the eldest daughter, he's a single parent and I live with him.

that's never fun. my best friend hid her "relationship" with her boyfriend from her parents for i think 5-6 months or so. eventually they did find out, but thank god they didnt freak. (her parents are verrrrry overprotective)
sometimes hiding it is the worst thing to do, though.
(like you, both her and her boyfriend were hiding it from their parents-- and they were 17 and 18) but both sets of parents ended up being okay with it.

you go girl! hhehehe.


those are some really great friends you have =]

If you tell you dad or he finds out and he freaks out or acts wierd its probably because you are the oldest and this could be a scary thing for him specially being a single parent.

Yeah. Last year he told me that if I had a 'special friend', he's cool with it as long as my academics don't suffer. Dunno if he changed his mind though. My boyfriend's mom said the same thing to him.

Okay girl cutting is not cool, not okay and won't make you feel better, over all you will just end up with more scars, get some professional help.
Seriously, how do you think it will be if this doesn't work out, how will you feel then what will you do, I am not trying to be mean at all,( My brother is Bi-polar/Manic Depressive) but if you have depression something like a bad relatinship will/may set you off.

I think it is awesome that a) you met someone and b.) you are confident enough to say no when you don't want to do something

You need to stay in touch with someone like a Doctor who has you in confidence and won't judge you etc, for the depression and tell them asap about cutting, you are 15 if you get on this now it can be stopped or kept to a minimum, if my brother had known at 15 he would not be as sick as he is today, he wouldn't be cured but he would have half the pain and suffering that he has now because it went untreated. I couldn't help my brother because I was too young but you i can try to help, encourage you to get professional help. And I am not trying to make this about me I am just using the experience I have had to try to let you know that it is okay to be you, but you don't have to suffer alone. And they can stop cutting, and further help with your depression.

I hope you aren't mad, I am glad you came here to ask and i hope everything works out for you.

Oh and every girls dad flips out i would guess in their own way..they mean well, they worry that's all.

Don't worry, I'm not mad. I've thought about it and talked to my boyfriend about it. We said we'll still be close friends if it doesn't work out coz we care about each other too much.

Hi RavenWind & welcome.

It's good that you have found someone special & that you are confident enough to be yourself with him.

I, too, think that it would be a good idea to discuss the cutting & depression with a counsellor perhaps ~ if only just for extra support ~ and, as the mother of a teenage girl, I have to recommend that you tell your Dad.

Take care

Thank you. I so much want to tell my dad but I'm way scared of him. He's forever stressed out because he doesn't have a monthly income and he struggles to give us what he wants. As of now he's under a lot of pressure and I think telling him might just tip him over.

See also:
Cried to myself about it...
http://www.wineintro.com/forum/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=264399#Post264399

Hi guys! Resurrecting this topic! XD

Anyway, I got into a state at school today. It was so bad that I wouldn't talk t anyone, including my boyfriend. I spoke to my best friend (the social worker was unavailible) and felt a lot better afterwards. I apologized to my boyfriend and he says he understands.

Um, ok. My boyfriend and I have kissed each other many times already. To be honest, he's not the greatest kisser ever. Anyway I can teach him something new?

You mean tech him how to kiss, or actully something new?

If you mean kissing, it's kind of hard in a way, but i guess it could be easy if you flow along with it well. I've only kissed my girl one time on the lips, most of the time, it's on the cheek, but anyway, I don't know of any ideas on how to teach someone to kiss good. The way I see it, just let him improve it himself, and if you must tell him, but save that for last resort. I have seen some guys slap their girls for telling them they are bad kissers. I don't get that at all. I could be a bad kisser myself. Any way, yea

May I suggest kissing someone the way you want to be kissed back, people tend to automatically mimic.

Lwhuntley4= I hope you don't endorse violence against women, if you see a guy do that you should tel him it ain't cool.

Hey guys!
Again, thanks to ya'll for your support and great advice.

Well, I finally told my dad! Yeah, I was dead scared and whatnot, but he actually took it quite well. He said he doesn't have a problem with it as long as I follow these conditions:

1 - I should know my limits
2 - He should know his limits
3 - I'm not allowed to go out at night
4 - My academics should not drop
5 - My attitude should not go down the drain

and lastly... 6 - He wants to talk to my boyfriend

I guess it's not that bad ey?

not bad. congrats on telling him =]

good job raven. hope to hear from yuou soon

That's great news!

Thanks everyone!
New news!

Well, my dad said that even if I have a boyfriend, there can never be anything really REALLY serious between us 'coz he's not Muslim, unlike me.
Today my boyfriend told me that he will even change his religion to be with me!
Sweet ey? But I don't want him to do something he doesn't really want to just to be with me.

It's sad that religion ~ which, I feel, should be a loving thing linking mankind together ~ should separate people who love one another.

Yeah, it's true. But I mean, even though I am Muslim, my boyfriend has free will and will only really need to convert if he decides to marry me (which I highly doubt will happen). He left for camp today and I won't be in cntact with him for 15 whole days!!! I miss him already and just wish I could hear his voice. He calls me almost every single day and it's weird not to hear from him. Oh, I passed my first term of grade 10 with flying colours so my dad can't blame anything on my boyfriend just yet. Haha!

Well done!

good job. Yea i know how it feels when someone you just got someone you can call a bf/gf goes away for awhile.

Well put, PDM. G-d loves everyone.

i think it has a lot to do with how you express your religion. I would find it hard to be in a relationship with anyone that didnt accept that I had different beliefs and tried to push theirs on me.... other than that, i'd see no problem

oh, I've been told that "god" doesnt love me. I've also been told that I will go to hell because of my actions and beliefs....

We have had lots of conversations like this in the 'religion' section.

yeah, sorry for getting off course there.