Hello Melissa,
So, to re-cap:
You are 14 & there's a boy of about 15 who you find very attractive.
You've each other since you were 12, through playing basketball.
At first, he preferred your friend, then he flirted with you, but still he said that he wasn't attacted to you.
Then he got more involved with other girls and spent less time with you & now you spend hardly any time together.
Yet you feel sure that he is attracted to you ~ and you see him looking at you.
You are attracted to him & you are convinced that he is attracted to you ~ though he hasn't said so.
What to do?
Well, you are going to get different responses from different people.
You are the same age as my daughter. If it were her, I would just advise her to be friendly and be herself and see what happened. However, I would also be very wary of her having a real boyfriend at such a young age.
Also, I wouldn't be too happy if she said that she wanted to 'grab' a boy and 'give him a big sexy kiss '. At only 14, to me, this doesn't seem appropriate.
Further, I like her to look nice ~ and she usually does ~ but I'd be concerned if she pointed out that she was one of the 'hot girls' or that she 'was looking hot like i do everyday '.
I don't know if this boy likes you. At 14 and 15, girls and boys like to be attractive to boys and girl. Flirting goes on, even when they aren't attracted to each other. It's just the way it is. But you can be friends with anyone and just see how things go. You can chat to him and see him in the lunch break. That is the best way to go for now.
At 14, I had male and female friends; we had fun and we flirted, but most of us didn't have boyfriends at such a young age. Different people are different and times change, so othetrs may feel very differently.
'Candy & Crushes' is the same age as you and also plays basketball. You seem to have a lot in common ~ have a read of her post ~ maybe her advice is worth following!
http://www.wineintro.com/forum/ubbthread...6858#Post326858